Negative people can be really difficult to deal with.
Sometimes you don’t have a choice because they’re co-workers or family.
When you see a co-worker five days a week, or have a family member you deeply care about; learning to deal with their negativity can be very helpful.
Here’s a simple trick I learned on how to deal with negative people.
Get them at their best.
What does this mean?
Even negative people have things that bring them joy and happiness.
Let’s say you have an aunt you love who complains about life all the time.
However, she loves to eat at a specific restaurant.
Do you think she’ll be sad, negative, or complaining while eating there?
Of course not.
Maybe you have a negative co-worker who hates his job, salary, and place in life.
Don’t be around when they’re complaining.
Instead, find out what they do for fun.
Make plans to hang out together out of work and do that thing.
The point is to get them to associate you with ONLY fun and happy things.
Don’t become a shoulder for them to cry on, instead be their “escape”.
Do you think your aunt will be disappointed that you’re never around for her to complain if you take her to eat at her favorite restaurant every so often?
Do you think your co-worker will feel like complaining to you if you had a good time during the weekend doing what they like?
“But Alex, isn’t it just a better idea to avoid negative people?”
That’s always an option.
However, if its a family member you love or a co-worker you see often, this is a better approach.
You at least train them to associate you with only happy memories and also bring a little joy and positivity to their lives.
It’s a win-win situation.
This has worked really well for me in the past.
People never feel like you just don’t care.
Instead, you train them to never be negative around you.
They look forward to a positive time when you’re around.
People treasure their good moments.
And if your aunt eating at her favorite restaurant is one of her few good moments, she’ll be happy and positive every second she’s there with you.
What is it that negative people need more of in their lives?
Happiness and positivity.
Give it to them.