She Wants Space
Relationships can take you on a roller coaster ride.
One day everything is up, the next day everything is going down.
Sometimes, things don’t go in your favor.
If you’re dating a woman and she says she needs space; it’s not a good sign.
When a woman asks for space it means that you currently don’t provide her any comfort.
Having you around is more painful than pleasurable.
She needs to be without you for a while, or maybe forever.
This can mean so many things depending on your situation:
1) You hurt her emotionally
2) She’s bored with the relationship
3) She’s into someone else
4) She feels the relationship isn’t going anywhere
The list of reasons is endless.
The concern here isn’t the reason why she wants space…
The important thing is you actually give it to her.
When a woman wants space, the WORST thing to do is try to convince her that it isn’t necessary.
I get it, you love her and she’s the best one in the world for you.
At least, that’s what you feel and think at the moment.
It’s time to leave her alone.
Again, it might be for a little while, or it might be forever.
When she asks for space, it’s time you start doing other things.
You don’t have to go out and date a bunch of women to get your mind of her…
But what you should do is focus on yourself.
Workout a little more than usual, start a new hobby, hang out with friends.
Whatever you do, DO NOT stay in the house.
All you’re going to do is think about her.
I can’t predict if she’ll come back since I don’t know why she’s asking for space.
What I can tell you is that you CANNOT contact her.
Space means space.
It doesn’t mean call me every day just to see how I’m doing.
If you want to increase the chances of her coming back, you MUST leave her alone.
Contacting her and pressuring her to come back will ONLY piss her off more and possibly eliminate the chances of you guys fixing things.
When you give her space, it allows her to miss you.
It allows her to think about the relationship and reasons why she should come back.
This is good because if she loves you, she’ll come back.
If she doesn’t, then what are you really losing?
Think about that for a moment…
How Long Before You Call Her
My rule of thumb is that you shouldn’t call her.
If she asked for space, you should give it to her.
She should contact you when she’s ready to talk.
However, I’ll say this…
It’s ok to contact her a week later to say hello and see how she’s doing.
But that’s it!
No long phone conversations!
No asking what she’s been up to!
No asking to hang out and talk!
You ask how’s she’s been and say bye.
This shows you care about her but are also respecting her request of space.
After that contact, if she doesn’t suggest meeting to talk or contact you a few days later, then it’s a sign you might have to begin preparing to let her go.
These things happen, man.
The roles might be reversed one day.
You might be the one telling the woman that you need space.
Things change, or so do people.
You might feel one way about someone today, and completely different tomorrow.
Sure, you can tell yourself:
“Well, what’s the point then? I’ll stay single forever. Why even risk falling for someone who might end up leaving?”
Well, that’s one way to go about it and risk never meeting a great woman.
Or you can bite the bullet, and put yourself out there and accept that you might be disappointed from time to time.
Life is all about risk.
You risk your life when your drive.
You risk your life when you go on a roller-coaster.
Why do you take the risks?
Because the benefits outweigh anything that can go wrong.
And that’s exactly what meeting a great woman is all about.
You take the risk of getting ending up disappointed because the reward is meeting a great woman who is perfect in every way.
The moral of the story is that if she wants space, you MUST give it to her.
If she comes back, she comes back.
If she doesn’t, you move on.
After all, if you guys were REALLY meant to be together…Wouldn’t you be?
– Alexander Writer
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