Those were the exact words a woman said to me in college.
Here’s the story.
It was the first day of class, and everyone was waiting for the professor to arrive.
Suddenly, this gorgeous girl walks in.
She looked like a Spanish princess from one of those famous, expensive paintings.
Eyes ran away from phone screens to her as she walked to an empty desk.
I instantly made the decision to approach her the first chance I got.
At the end of class, she stayed behind speaking to the professor, so I decided to wait until next time to make my move.
Next time I had class, I arrived a few minutes early and hung out outside.
To my luck, the Spanish princess arrived a minute after me.
We made eye contact, exchanged smiles and I said “Hi”.
She responded “Hi” and we began talking.
Though the conversation took place about 7 years ago, I remember it like it was yesterday.
Me: “OK, here’s the deal, if the professor doesn’t get here in the next 5 minutes, we skip class and go to the beach instead”.
Her: Laughs and responds “I’m in. The beach sounds great right about now”.
After speaking for a few minutes, the professor arrived and class began.
The Spanish princess and I sat apart, but occasionally made eye contact.
I couldn’t help but think about how I was going to ask her to hangout after class.
As soon as class ended, I approached her.
Me: “Too bad we couldn’t make it a beach day, class was pretty boring today”.
Her: “I agree. Maybe next time”.
Me: “I’m going to Starbucks in the library, come with me.”
Her: “I can’t, I’m in a rush. Sorry”.
At this point, most men would be torn apart and feel rejected.
The feeling of disappointed would spread all over their face making it OBVIOUS how much the woman’s ‘no’ hurt them.
I proved I have thick skin and responded wisely.
Me: “I knew you were scared of me”.
Her: Laughs with a confused look on her face as if she wasn’t expecting that response and says “Yes, you caught me. I’m terrified!”.
Me: “Alright you big wussy, if you grow tough from here to next class, we’ll grab coffee then. Good luck because next time will be your last chance.”
Her: “Oh really? Last chance, huh? OK, I’ll do my best to become brave from here until then”.
Me: “I’m glad you have your priorities straight.”
Her: laughs and says “You’re too much”
The next time we had class, we grabbed coffee and things went great.
A couple weeks later, we were officially dating.
Now, for the MOST important part of the story.
Around a month into our relationship, she told me something that FOREVER changed the way I looked at the dating.
What did she say?
The same words you read at the beginning of this article, here they are again:
“I usually don’t date guys that look like you, you’re not my type, but there was something about you that I really liked”
Can you guess what she liked?
The fact that I showed courage and didn’t take ‘no’ for an answer.
Every woman claims to have a “type” of guy she dates.
The reality is that most women have no idea what they really like and want.
But I’ll tell you one thing I know for sure, women can’t help but feel attracted to a man who’s confident, funny and goes after what he wants in life.
I’m 5’9, with fair skin and red hair.
While some women LOVE men who look like me, others prefer the complete opposite.
Well, not in my reality.
In my reality, I’m every woman’s type because I have two very important things:
When it comes to meeting women, it’s about how you carry yourself.
If you have a high level of self-belief and the balls (metaphorically speaking) to approach them, you’ll be amazed at how many you’ll meet.
When a woman says ‘no’ to your invite, don’t get mad, dramatic or disappointed.
Instead, smile and tease her about it.
If how and why this works doesn’t make sense to you, give it time, it will.
The more you practice, the better you’ll get and the more it will make sense.
Remember this, women LOVE to laugh and have a good time.
If you show them a good time and demonstrate a courageous personality, it’s only uphill from there.
Yes, there are many women who only date guys according to their physical appearance.
Fine, not much you can do about that.
Believe me that you’re better off without these kind of women, so be happy when they reject your invite to hang out.
On the other hand, there are many who claim to have a “type” but always end up falling for a guy because of his good personality, self-belief and balls.
Ironically, the guy usually looks the complete opposite of what she claims she “likes”.
Ask any woman on the street if she’s ever dated a guy that wasn’t her “type”, I absolutely guarantee you’ll get a TON of ‘yes’ responses.
I don’t care who she is or what she claims her type is, if she catches my eye, I’m approaching her.
If she comes across as someone who’s worth my time during our conversation, I’m inviting her to grab coffee.
If she says ‘no’ to coffee, she’s getting teased.
And if the teasing and my second invite to hangout doesn’t work, I’ll consider myself lucky and approach the next woman that catches me eye.
End of story.
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