When I was 20 years old, I was VERY shy at talking to women.
I would make eye contact and look away.
I lacked self-confidence.
Whenever I would see an attractive girl, I felt like I had no chance with her.
It was a horrible feeling of desperation and anxiety.
I felt I would eventually have to settle for a girl I didn’t really like.
One day, I went to Walgreen’s to pick up a couple things I needed.
Standing there in the soap aisle was a woman whose smile could light up the darkest room.
The feeling of desperation rushed through my body like a cold chill.
I wanted her.
Man, I wanted her…
I don’t know what happened that day but something inside me had had enough.
Enough of not talking to women.
Enough of not feeling confident.
Enough of not taking what I wanted.
We made eye contact and she took initiative by smiling first.
Every fiber in my body was desperately trying to convince me to just look away.
But I resisted.
I smiled back and asked “Not sure on which soap to pick?”
She smiled and replied “No! There’s so many!”
After a little help, we agreed on a soap for her to buy.
I asked if she lived in the area and if she would like to grab coffee the next day.
She accepted my offer.
Let me ask you something…
Have you ever achieved something great?
Ever felt so excited and relieved that nothing in the world could shift your mood?
When she accepted my offer, I felt like I could do anything.
I experienced pure elation.
I had proven myself wrong.
Every doubt I had…
Every limiting belief…
Was gone in an instant.
This experience went on to affect me in other areas of my life.
Every time I encountered fear or doubt, I would push through anyways.
You see, you and I have something in common.
We want PROOF.
Proof that things will work before we attempt them.
Proof the girl we approach will accept our invitation to hang out.
Proof that if we start a business, we’ll succeed.
Proof that everything will work in our favor.
…but guess what, my friend?
In life, the only proof you get is that one you allow yourself to have.
Are you lacking confidence with dating?
Good, go and talk to women and PROVE to yourself you CAN date a great girl.
Are you scared to start a business because you might fail?
Good, start and fail so you can PROVE to yourself that you can learn from your mistakes and get better.
The Walgreen’s girl changed my life, but she wasn’t the only reason.
It was me pushing through fear and doubt that allowed it to happen.