The Truth About Confidence
Here’s an interesting fact that helps reveal the truth about confidence...
Children are born with two fears:
1) Fear of falling
2) Fear of loud noises
Every other fear you have is a LEARNED fear.
For some reason, you developed it.
Maybe an event in your life or “negative programming.”
The truth is you don’t lack confidence.
The truth about confidence is that everyone is born with it!
But if you feel as if you don’t have it, it’s because something happened.
You have a mental block (fear) in your head.
Something conditioned you to believe you’re not worthy of women.
Ever seen how fearless a little boy can be?
He’ll go up to any woman, of any age, with no problem.
Of course, it’s with different intentions, but that’s not the point.
Most guys who lack confidence have the fear of approaching women.
So the thing with confidence is not that you need to learn how…
Instead, you need to remove whatever blocks you have in your mind.
Now, there are a million self-help techniques you can do to help you with this.
But what I feel is MOST effective is proof.
Proof that women would date you.
Proof that you could go up to women and have them respond positively.
Proof that the fear in your mind is NOT real.
How do you get proof?
How do you get your confidence back?
You start approaching women on a daily basis.
Now, this isn’t going to be as it easy as I’m making it sound.
At least not at first.
Well, because just like anything else, approaching women with ease is a habit.
You can’t expect to go up to a woman the first time feeling confident and calm.
The more you prove to yourself you CAN do it, the more you become confident.
You see, here’s a little secret I’m going to share with you:
The more women you approach, the better you get at reading them.
The better you get at reading them, the better you relate to them.
Why are good looking guys confident around women?
Because they’ve been lead to believe their whole lives they deserve woman.
Their entire lives women have given them attention, and as a result, they don’t have any mental blocks.
Why are there guys who aren’t the best looking but still confident around woman?
Because they don’t have a confidence mental block.
For one reason or another, they never developed one.
Either their father was great with woman.
Or they were raised around a lot of women and learned a lot about them.
Or they were very popular in school with women as kids.
The reasons are endless!
You were already born knowing everything there is to know about dating women.
But it’s those damn mental blocks in your mind convincing you otherwise.
The truth about confidence is that it doesn’t have to be learned, it needs to be unblocked.
If you want to spend a ton of money on self-help books, seminars, etc. about confidence; then go for it.
But nothing you read or hear will help you nearly as much as YOU proving to yourself something you thought wasn’t possible.
I’m not saying products like that won’t offer any help, but NOTHING will come close as actual proof.
Why do companies offer free trials to customers?
To provide proof their products work.
Why are there movie commercials?
To provide proof a movie is worth watching.
Proof = Confidence
When you have proof, you’re confident that things can and will turn out a certain way.
I wrote a post called The Girl at Walgreen’s Story.
In it I talk about how I saw a girl I wanted to approach.
However, all my mental blocks were trying to hold me back.
Usually I would listen to my mind and back out from approaching her.
But this time, I just ignored it and pushed through.
I know it’s going to be tough at the beginning.
You’re going to get that feeling of anxiousness and fear.
Just push through it and approach women anyways.
I promise that it’ll get easier and easier.
The moral of the story?
Any mental blocks you have interfering with your confidence will be removed once you start PROVING to yourself you can do this.
This doesn’t mean you’ll score a date with EVERY women you approach.
But you will meet and date A LOT more women than you thought possible.
Any man who has a decent physique (a healthy weight for his body size), dresses presentable (ironed clothes that’s clean and fits him well, and goes up to women to start a conversation; will be successful.
Try it and see what happens…