If you ask most men what their fears are when it comes to dating women, you’d be surprised to learn that most of the time, it’s approaching them.
Somewhere along their lives, something happen that caused them to fear starting a conversation with a woman they don’t know.
The reasons for this are endless.
Maybe you had a bad experience one day when approaching one of them.
Or maybe you’ve had many bad experiences with women in general.
Perhaps someone broke your heart, cheated on you, stole your dog…who knows.
Whatever the reason is, it doesn’t matter.
What’s important is that you get over this fear and that’s what we’ll be covering in this article.
The very first thing you need to know and understand is:
Nothing horrible is going to happen if you walk over and say ‘Hi’.
By doing so, you’re already ahead of most guys who don’t do anything but look at her.
I’ve said it many times before, women like to be noticed and approached.
It makes them feel good about themselves.
Even if she’s in a happy relationship and wants nothing to do with another guy, she will always be open to being approached and noticed.
I don’t care what anyone says and if they agree with me or not.
Women love attention.
And it’s for this reason that fearing talking to them is silly.
Whatever reason caused you to fear talking to them, don’t worry about it, it doesn’t matter.
What’s important is that you get over that fear.
And can you guess what’s the best, fail-proof strategy for doing that?
Here, I’ll tell you:
Going up to many women and proving to yourself that it’s perfectly OK to do so.
I promise you that 99.9% of the time that you approach a women, one of two things will happen:
1) She will be interested and happy to go on a date with you
2) She will say that she has a boyfriend and reject you
Nothing about your life will change.
Nothing scary or horrible will happen.
You’ll simply never see her again and move on with your life.
What’s interesting about this fear is that it goes away fairly quickly when you start talking to women.
The reality is that most of them are nice when you approach them.
…And as soon as you realize this, you’ll find yourself wondering what the hell you were so scared of before.
But hey, don’t give yourself such a hard time.
Our minds do a fantastic job at making us believe and perceive things a certain way.
Again, it all comes down to your past experiences and the beliefs you’ve developed.
Did you know that babies are born with only two fears?
- The fear of falling
- The fear of loud noises
That means that any other fear you may have is a developed fear.
And it also means that you can eliminate it.
So, again, if you fear talking to women, it’s a fear developed through experiences.
Women are social creatures and are always open to conversation, even with someone they’ve never met before.Women are social creatures and are always open to conversation, even with someone they've never met before. Click To Tweet
The more you approach them, the better you get at starting conversations, the more success you’ll have.
I highly recommend you get this area of your life handled and begin talking to them.
Out of all the women I’ve approached, I’ve never had one who made me regret it.
We either had a good conversation/set up a date or she nicely told me she had a boyfriend.
I remember when I was in high school, I wouldn’t approach women.
I don’t know if I was scared, shy, worried, or something else.
All I know is that I wouldn’t approach them.
I’d only talk to them if and when they initiated the conversation.
But when I started college, I knew it was time to stop this behavior.
Women were everywhere and I wanted to date them.
So I pushed through my fears and just talked to them.
Did I die?
Did anything bad happen?
I met some great girls, a few crazy ones (haha), and even ended up with a girlfriend who later moved away for a job offer.
What would’ve happened if I’d remained shy?
If I’d let a fear in my mind continue to prevent me from approaching women?
My guess is nothing good.
Trust me when I tell you that there’s no book, product, or coaching session that will help you get over your fear of talking to women.
Some of those things might help a little, but the fear will still be there.
Even this article is meaningless unless you actually start talking to them!
It’s simple really…
Go up to her, say hi, and smile.
And when I say smile, I mean a small smile.
Not a huge cheesy one that looks like you’re auditioning for the new Colgate commercial.
Once she says hi back, make a comment on the situation.
For example, I remember one the girls I approached in my college class.
I said hi, smiled, and then asked if she’d heard anything good or bad about our professor.
We chatted for a few minutes before class started.
At the end of class, I asked her to go get coffee at the Starbucks in our school library.
She responded “Sure”.
Listen to me, man, meeting women is no big deal.
It’s a number game.
You can go out today and get rejected by 10 women.
Then go out tomorrow and get 10 numbers.You can go out today and get rejected by 10 women. Then go out tomorrow and get 10 numbers. Click To Tweet
The most important thing is to not take any experience personal and just keep approaching them.
There’s absolutely NO WAY you won’t eventually meet and date a women you really like as long as you keep approaching them.