Why do I feel shy around women is a common question asked by men all over the world.
It’s a horrible feeling.
No matter what you do, you continue to feel uneasy with women you find attractive.
Well, don’t worry, by the end of this article, you’ll have a true understanding on why this happens and what to do about it.
First things first, everything that you believe about yourself is a result of mental programming.
What do I mean by mental programming?
Ideas and thoughts that you’ve accepted as true.
Let me explain.
If women didn’t “like you” in school, or if you got teased by them as you were growing up, and it made you uncomfortable/feel bad, there’s a good chance you’re shy around them now.
Shyness is basically a defense-mechanism.
It’s your way of avoiding embarrassment, disappointment, and pain.
In other words, you’re not shy around women, you’re careful around them.
See the difference?
The examples above aren’t the only reason men experience shyness; there are a many, MANY more.
However, the reason why YOU in particular are shy doesn’t matter.
All that matters is that you eliminate it!
I remember reading a book where the author said:
“Don’t ever believe anything too much because there will always come a moment when it isn’t true.”
Though I disagreed with the statement at the time, over time, I’ve discovered how true it is.
You see, in an instant, anything can change.
For example, if you think you SUCK with women, but all of a sudden meet and date a beautiful and wonderful women, something any man can do, would you still believe you suck?
Of course not.
I mean, you’d be crazy to.
How can you say you suck with women if you obviously have a great one by your side?
With that said, all it takes to eliminate an idea you’ve accepted as true is proof.
What exactly is proof?
Evidence that your idea about being shy isn’t real.
How do you get evidence?
The First Step: Getting evidence
In order to get evidence, you need to take action.
For example, you say you currently feel shy around women, right?
OK, no big deal.
How are you going to prove to yourself that you’re not actually shy? That it’s just an false idea in your head?
By taking action, succeeding with women, and developing a new belief.
The ONLY reason you’re shy around women is due to lack of confidence and experience.
This same lack of confidence and experience is was FORCES you to think and act shy.
However, the more women you talk to and succeed with, the more your self-belief grows, and the faster you eliminate the idea that you’re shy.
It’s truly that simple.
So, what’s the moral of the story?
You’re shy because you believe that you are and use it as a defense mechanism.
How do you fix it?
By talking to as many women as possible.
You do that, my friend, and I absolutely guarantee that you’re shyness will disappear.