10 Most Common Mistakes Men Make That Force Women To Put Them In The Friend Zone

Introduction

It’s easy making mistakes that land you in the friend zone.

Once you’re there, getting out takes some serious work.

In most cases, it’s impossible to get out.

The good news is that once you learn these mistakes, you’ll never make them.

Let’s begin.

1) You’re too nice and agreeable 

You like everything about her and think she’s perfect, even though she knows she’s not.

You also give her endless compliments and agree with anything she says or does.

Why do you do these things?

To win her and keep her.

Listen to me, my friend…

Women aren’t dumb.

They know they’re not always right or perfect.

It’s unrealistic to agree with EVERYTHING she thinks, says or does.

Liking and agreeing everything immediately tells her one thing:

You’re not being yourself.

She knows you’re doing this because you don’t believe the REAL you is good enough for her.

You’re worried that saying/doing the wrong thing will force her lose interest in you.

The opposite is true.

For a woman to become and remain attracted to you, you must be your own man.

What does being your own man mean?

Having a strong and masculine character.

One of the traits of a strong and masculine character is always saying what you mean and meaning what you say.

You never avoid speaking your mind.

Like I teach you inside my book, women enjoy being challenged.

She wants and expects you to disagree with her at times.

She also wants to hear your point of view and opinion.

If you’re ALWAYS this perfect, agreeable, nice guy – you don’t qualify to be her boyfriend.

You qualify to be put in the friend zone.

So what’s the solution?

Stop being so nice and agreeable.

When you first meet and start dating a woman, you should only give her compliments occasionally.

My rule of thumb is one compliment per date.

You should also only agree with her about something if you actually think and feel the same way.

The key is to always be 100% honest.

If she doesn’t like something about you, too bad.

She can leave if she wants.

You have plenty of other women who want you. (More on this later)

2) You don’t lead her

When a woman asks you questions like “Where do you want to go” or “What do you want to eat?”, she’s not looking for you to ASK HER what she wants.

Responding with “I don’t know, where do you want to go?” or “I don’t know, what do you want to eat?”, is not leading her.

It’s asking her to take the lead.

That’s not what she wants.

She only wants to lead those men that she’s not attracted to.

The same men who she puts in the friend zone.

Your job is to know what she likes to do and eat so that you can take the lead.

You get this information from her during your first date.

For instance, if she likes sushi, and you’re both hungry, go and get sushi.

If she asks you want you want to do, make a decision and go!

Period. 

I 100% guarantee that if you don’t start leading women, you’re going to end up with more friends than a summer camp.

Be and act like the man she wants.

3) You don’t make a move

Does a friend make a move on another friend?

No.

Why?

Because that’s not what friends do.

If you don’t make a move on her, she’s not the one putting you in the friend zone.

You’re doing it to yourself.

You’re subconsciously telling her that you don’t qualify to date her.

After all, why wouldn’t you make a move? Think about it.

I don’t advise making a move on the first date like I mention in this article.

The purpose of this is to stand out from most men who desperately try to kiss her as soon as possible.

Don’t be most men.

Show her that you’re different by being patient.

With that said, you MUST make a move by the end of the second date.

Waiting longer than the second date to make a move can also land you in the friend zone.

You want to communicate patience but lack of fear to make a move.

That’s why kissing her on the second date works best.

Does that make sense?

If you don’t kiss her by the end of the second date, her mind will identify you as a guy friend who she hangs out with.

Don’t wait for the “right moment”.

There is no perfect time and place.

Sure, you don’t want to lean across the table and kiss her while she has food in her mouth.

That’s not smooth.

However, when all you’re doing is talking, go for it.

Give her a compliment, wait until she smiles and says “thank you”, gently grab the sides of her face, and lean in to kiss her.

It’s that easy.

She wants a man with balls who isn’t scared of rejection.

Do you have balls?

She’s going to wonder if you do…

4) You’re too available

Anytime she calls you to go somewhere you say “YES!”.

Whether it’s Saturday at 8:00 p.m. or Wednesday at 3:00 a.m., you drop everything and go.

Women are attracted to busy men because it means they have a lot going on in your life.

It makes you much more interesting and attractive to her.

This doesn’t mean you’re never available.

It just means you’re not always available.

Do you see the difference?

If she can have you whenever she wants, you’re not much of a challenge.

Always remember that women want to work a little for your time and attention.

If you’re always available, not only do you tell her that you have anything better to do, but you also tell her that she’s your priority.

Why would a woman that’s not your girlfriend or wife be a priority?

She needs to earn that right.

And she wants to earn it, not just have it given to her.

Trust me.

5) You text or talk on the phone too often

Just like being too available is bad, so is talking on the phone or texting all the time.

By doing so, you’re basically telling her that she’s your whole world.

Look, man, if she’s your wife, it’s fine to talk and text all day.

Actually, it still isn’t OK, but it’s acceptable.

But for a woman who’s not even your girlfriend yet, texting and calling all day will backfire.

One minute you’ll think that you’re going to win her and keep her because of how much the two of you talk.

The next minute you’ll be shocked trying to figure out how you ended up in the friend zone.

I see it happen to men all the time.

It’s fine to talk and text a little.

But always appear busy with other things, even if you’re not.

6) If she says “jump”, you jump

Whatever she asks you for, you give.

Whatever she asks you to do, you do.

For instance, if she tells you to be in her house in 10 minutes, you haul ass through traffic like a police chase.

You think being this way will make her want to be with you?

Think again.

She doesn’t want you in the palm of her hands.

That’s what friends are for.

And even friends aren’t that available or giving, so imagine how bad it is when you behave this way.

Don’t do it.

7) You share past experiences with women

If you’ve had bad luck with women in the past, don’t tell her about it.

She’ll lose interest in you…FAST!

Like I mention in other articles:

Women want men that other women want

If you tell her how all women want to be “just friends” with you, what do you think she’s going to do?

She’s going to put you in the friend zone too.

If a lot of women have left you or if a lot of your dates have gone bad, DON’T TELL HER.

Unless you want to be known as her friend that has bad luck with women, keep your dating history to yourself.

Let me ask you a question…

Why would she want you if other women don’t?

She’ll begin to wonder “What’s the hell is wrong with him that scares women away?”

Are you with me?

You should only share your dating history with women who you want as friends.

Period.

Whether you’ve had 100 women break-up with you, or have been on 500 bad dates, it’s none of her business.

You can tell her the details once she’s your girlfriend, but even then I wouldn’t disclose much.

For now, you want her to maintain a strong attraction for you so you can guarantee she doesn’t put you in the friend zone.

So what do you do whenever a woman asks you about your dating history?

Respond with “I don’t kiss and tell” and smile at her. 

As a result, you’ll notice a positive reaction from her.

I guarantee it.

8) You complain instead of taking action

One of the worse things men can do is complain.

Yes, you can have a bad day, hate your job, have your car breakdown, and so on.

We all have bad days at some point.

It’s OK to be frustrated or angry at a situation and share how you feel.

She wants you to be open and communicate with her.

However, what’s not OK is for you to complain non-stop like a child.

Women want a man who takes action to fix a situation instead of complaining about it.

Here are two examples:

Complaining

You: “I hate my job. My co-workers are annoying. My salary sucks. I want to quit. I think I’m calling in sick tomorrow because I can’t deal with it anymore.”

Taking action

You: “I didn’t have a good day at work today. I’m unhappy with my job. I’m going to the gym to release some stress and then apply to a few jobs online after clearing my head.”

See the difference?

The first example makes you appear like a helpless little boy.

The second example makes you appear like a man who takes action to get what he wants and deserves in life.

Which one of the two examples do you think is attractive to women?

Easy answer.

9) You fail her test

Most women have their fair experiences dating men.

A lot of these men turned out to be different than what they portrayed themselves to be.

In other words, they acted as someone they’re not.

You see, you can act one way but be the complete opposite.

Women must test you to see if you’re being honest and if you truly are who you say you are.

Here are some examples of how women test men:

• Cancelling a date
• Being rude to you
• Asking you to cancel something to join her instead
• Makes a comment about something you lack
• Complains like a child when she doesn’t get her way

All the examples above have one purpose:

She’s testing you to see how you respond

When a woman test you, she’s looking to see how you handle the situation.

If you do what she says, get dramatic or lose your composure, you automatically fail her test.

If you stand your ground and keep your composure, you pass.

It’s all about how you carry yourself when she test you.

And believe me, my friend, SHE WILL 100% TEST YOU.

In fact, the more she likes you, the more she’ll begin testing you.

Women don’t have time to waste.

They know to quickly learn if you’re the type of man she wants to date or put in the friend zone.

Here are some examples of women testing men and the right/wrong way to respond:

Example # 1

Her: “I know you’re working on a project this weekend, but can you take me to the wine and food festival instead?”

You: “Sure, I can do that. What time do you want to go?” (Wrong)

You: “No. We can go next weekend though. I’ll pick you up Saturday at 1:00 pm.” (Right)

Example # 2

Her: “This music is boring. Change it.”

You: “OK, what do you want to listen to?” (Wrong)

You: “No way, this is my favorite part!” Then raise the volume and start singing to her with a big smile on your face to tease her. (Right)

Example # 3

Her: “When’s the last time you went on a date?”

You: “Ummm like three months ago. It didn’t go well. My luck with women hasn’t been too good.” (Wrong)

You: “Right before our date. I think she loves me already too.” (Right)

Responding to her test isn’t about being obnoxious, immature or annoying.

It’s all in the way you respond.

If you respond in a calm manner with a smirk on your face, you’ll communicate three POWERFUL things:

1) I know you’re testing me

2) I know how to handle it

3) I’m not needy or desperate and have no fear of losing you

In example #1, she’s telling you to put your priorities aside for her.

By doing so, you make her feel like she can step all over you and pull you away from things that are important.

That’s not what she truly wants.

In example #2, she’s testing you to see if you’re willing to stop listening to music you enjoy just because she doesn’t like it.

Unless you’re blasting the music or it has offensive lyrics to women, there’s no reason she can’t sit in the car and listen to it.

She can, but she’s testing you!

In example #3, what does it matter when you last went on a date?

Your past with women has nothing to do with her.

Honestly, she doesn’t care, but she’s testing you.

If you always respond in calm manner with a smirk on your face, and don’t give in to her ridiculous demands or questions, you’ll pass every test.

What’s the obvious clue that you’re passing her tests?

She continues to date you and doesn’t put you in the friend zone.

10) You have a scarcity mindset

This is what it all comes down to, my friend.

Your belief about how many women want you will determine your success.

When you believe that you have a lot of options, you carry yourself differently.

Men with options don’t care whether ONE woman likes him or not.

They also don’t have time to be friends with women.

Occasionally they’ll hang out with a woman who’s a friend, but definitely not often.

And if it’s a woman he once wanted that put him in the friend zone, he NEVER hangs out with her.

He has self-respect and never accepts her as just a friend.

The reality is that you can walk outside and within five minutes meet a woman who’s just as great or better than her.

Women can immediately tell when you have a scarcity mindset.

As a result, they quickly begin losing attraction for you.

Why?

Because she doesn’t feel that you have a lot of options with women.

As a result, you’ll do or say anything just so that she doesn’t leave you.

Guess what?

This will immediately begin pushing her away because she’ll feel sorry for you.

An obvious sign she’s starting to feel sorry for you is when you start hearing things like “You’re such a good friend”.

Conclusion

I know it’s a long article, but read it a minimum of seven times.

I JAM-PACKED with valuable information because I want to help you.

Your success with women will dramatically improve if you study this article regularly.

Bookmark it on your browser so you can refer to it often.

As a result, you’ll always be the kind of man that women are attracted to and want, instead of being the kind of men who’s always getting put in the friend zone.

Until next time…

Your friend,

-Alex