Introduction
So you succeeded at getting her phone number?
Congratulations, my friend.
Now you’re probably wondering when to call to schedule a date.
Before you cross that bridge, let’s make sure you don’t make any mistakes.
What mistakes?
Those that will make her lose interest in you.
Below are 5 rules to follow after getting her number so you can maximize the chances of a first date.
1) Give her your number immediately
First things first, give her your number immediately.
Call her the moment you save her number so she can save yours.
If you already got her number and skipped this step, send her a quick text saying:
“Hi, this is (-your name-) from earlier. Here’s my number. Talk soon.”
Why is this important?
Because women give out their numbers for different reasons.
Some women who aren’t interested will tell you that they have a boyfriend, even if it’s not true.
Other women will give you their number just because they’re scared.
Scared of what?
Women can’t predict how a man will react if she rejects him.
They rather give out their number to end the conversation and play it safe.
With that said, there are some women who will give you their number but are in complicated situations.
For example, they might be back and forth with an ex-boyfriend, or currently dating someone but open to meeting other men.
You never really know.
And it’s for all of the reasons above (and more) why she should have your number.
If she’s interested, she’ll either answer the phone or call you back.
If she’s not interested, she’ll ignore your call and you’ll never hear from her again.
Simple enough.
This saves you time because you only have to call her once.
If you don’t hear from her, you’ll know why.
However, if she doesn’t have your number, and doesn’t answer or call you back, you’ll begin to wonder things like “Maybe she didn’t know it was me calling?” or “Maybe she didn’t get my call?“
These doubts will lead you to doing something that KILLS a woman’s attraction for you…
You’ll call her again.
Unless she’s already not interested, you’ll risk losing her by calling more than once.
Why?
Because it makes you appear desperate, needy and insecure.
And trust me when I tell you this…she’ll lose interest in you…FAST!
Here’s a secret you might not know about women.
It’s a strategy they use to figure out whether a man is worth their time or not.
Women ignore men on purpose just to see how they react.
I’ve had MANY women tell me stories about men becoming insecure and offensive jerks when they doesn’t respond.
Some of the stories I’ve heard would SHOCK you!
It’s crazy.
Now, if you were a woman, and had this happen to you in the past, wouldn’t you be a little scared?
Wouldn’t you want to make sure that the next guy you met isn’t the same way?
Absolutely.
How could you make sure?
By testing him to see how he responds.
Just because she doesn’t answer your call doesn’t mean she’s not interested.
Read that last sentence again.
It could be that she’s busy, in a complicated situation or just testing you.
However, if she has your number and is interested, she’ll call you back.
It might be today, tomorrow, next week, or in a month.
It doesn’t matter.
Just remain cool, calm and collected and wait until she contacts you.
“But Alex, even if she doesn’t have my number, couldn’t I just call her anyways and move on if she doesn’t call back?
Sure.
But trust me when I tell you that if you call a woman who’s not interested in you, and she answers because she doesn’t know it’s you, the conversation will be short and awkward.
Save your time.
2) Don’t text her
Let’s make one thing clear…
You just met her!
She’s not your friend or someone you’ve known a long time.
She’s a woman you find attractive that you barely know.
End of story.
There’s no reason to text her all day.
Not only will you appear like you don’t have anything better or important to do, but she’ll feel like you’re already extremely interested in her.
How could you be so interested in a woman you just met and don’t know?
By texting her a lot, you instantly communicate another thing that makes her lose attraction.
What is it?
A scarcity mindset.
You lead her to believe that you aren’t desired by other women.
Here’s another secret most women won’t tell you:
They want a man that other women want.
You probably noticed how much more attention you get from women when you start dating someone new or are in a relationship.
How come?
Women have this radar that instantly tells them if other women want you.
Do you think her radar goes off if you begin texting her ALL THE TIME before even going on a first date?
Of course not.
Leave all the talking for the first date.
You can respond if she texts you, but always appear busy.
For example:
Her: “Hey what’s up?”
You: “Hi. I’m finishing some work and waiting for my friend. We’re going to grab lunch and go mountain biking. How about you?”
Her: “Going to the mall in a few. Have fun”
You: “Thanks! Don’t forget to buy something. Talk later.”
Your goal is to keep the conversation short, playful and fun.
A woman, especially one that you just met, must feel that you have a lot going on in your life.
It makes you a lot more interesting and increases her attraction for you.
You don’t have to ignore her or “play hard to get” if she texts you.
That’s what inexperienced and clueless men do.
Women aren’t dumb.
They well aware that everyone looks at their phone every 5-10 minutes.
If you completely ignore her, she’ll know what you’re doing.
The trick is to communicate that you’re busy and everything else will take care of itself.
She must know that the reason she doesn’t hear from you is not because you’re playing some dating game that makes her chase you, but because you truly are busy.
See the difference?
“But Alex, what if I’m not usually busy and don’t really have hobbies?”
Get some.
3) When to call her
The only reason why you should call after getting her number is to schedule a first date.
That’s it.
What’s one of the FASTEST ways to get a woman to lose interest in you?
Call her and spend hours on the phone.
Texting all day is bad enough, but calling her and spending hours on the phone is even WORSE!
On the surface, it might feel like it’s working in your favor.
Trust me, my friend, it’s NOT!
What you’re essentially doing is becoming her friend.
Who do women usually spend hours with on the phone?
Their friends!
Do you think women are attracted to men who have time to spend hours on the phone?
NO!
Women are attracted to men who are busy and have a lot going on in their lives.
Spending hours talking are what dates are for!
After all, she wants to go on a date with a man she doesn’t really know yet.
There must be some mystery to you so she can be excited to see you and learn more.
Does that make sense?
If you tell her EVERYTHING about you over the phone, how exciting will the first date be?
What will there be to forward to?
Here’s what to do instead.
Call her in the afternoon the day after you meet her.
The conversation shouldn’t last longer than five minutes.
Ask her about her day, then immediately tell her about yours and what you’re about to go do.
This will let her know that you don’t have time to stay on the phone.
Remember to always appear busy.
After talking for five minutes, don’t ask her, but tell her to meet you for a date.
You must tell her where, when and why to meet you.
Do not ask her “Hey would you like to go on a date with me?“.
You must have the mindset of “This woman totally wants me!“.
You must automatically assume she wants to see you.
Remember what I said about the radar women have?
When you ask instead of tell, you immediately communicate uncertainty.
She’ll know that you’ll doubt whether she’ll go on a date with you or not.
Subconsciously she’ll think “Why is he asking? Is he unsure of himself? Do women reject him often?”
By simply telling her instead of asking her, you’ll appear confident, masculine and like the type of man who’s use to getting what he wants.
Don’t take my word for it.
Try it and see for yourself.
Here’s how to tell her to meet you for a date:
“Hey, there’s this great bar that I love with good food, drinks and music. Meet me there Friday at 7:00 pm so we can talk more. I’ll text you the address now.”
After she agrees to the date, say “OK great, I’ll see you then. Bye.“, and hang up.
Listen to me, my friend…
Women want a man that’s assertive who leads her.
Asking her if she wants to see you again is NOT assertive.
It’s insecure, timid and weak.
Tell her!
She’ll be glad you did.
Trust me.
4) Do not confirm the date
What’s just as bad as asking a woman instead of telling her to see you again?
Confirming the date.
Just because she gave you her number doesn’t automatically mean she’ll go on a date with you.
Your actions after getting her number will determine whether she see’s you again.
Put yourself in a woman’s shoes for a minute.
Let’s say a man calls you to confirm a date that the two of you already agreed on.
Woman’s mind: “He called me to confirm the date. Does he think I might cancel? Do women cancel on him all the time? Maybe I should too.”
Are you seeing what happens?
These are the last thoughts you want going through her mind.
Whatever you do, don’t confirm the date.
Period.
Just show up knowing that she’ll be there.
If she can’t make it, she’ll most likely have the decency to tell you.
Worse case, she doesn’t show up and you go back home.
No harm, no foul.
If she doesn’t show up to the date, don’t text or call her to tell her off.
Remember that you’re a confident man with A LOT of options.
Act like it.
At the same time, don’t try scheduling another date with her.
She already disrespected your time and this would be the first of many headaches and disappointments down the road.
Trust me.
Delete her number and move on.
5) What to do after the date
At the end of the date, tell her you had a great time and not too miss you too much.
Like I said earlier, keep things fun.
She’ll laugh and respond something like “I had a great time too. Bye.“.
Don’t try to start making out with her like a horny kid in high school, or ask her to go back to your place.
Be calm, cool and collected and end the date.
Don’t text her asking her if she got home safe.
Yes, it may seem like the right thing to do, but it immediately tells her that you’re already “catching feelings” for her.
This kind of behavior so soon will push her away.
Why would you be worried whether she got home safe or not?
Do you ALREADY love her after just ONE date?
You have to enter the female mind, my friend, and look at things from their perspective.
I’m sharing this with you because I know for a fact how women respond to this “nice behavior”.
They don’t like it.
If she text you the same night after your date, respond the next morning.
But if she doesn’t text you, you say nothing.
Got it?
You can send her a text the night after you first date with something funny like “I know you’ve been thinking about me all day. You’ll see me again soon…maybe :)”
Women love this kind of laid-back, humorous and funny behavior.
It lets her know that you’re comfortable in your own skin, not needy or desperate and understand what women want and respond to.
What do most guys who go on a date with her do after the date?
They try to either hookup with her or start calling and texting her non-stop to see her again.
Don’t be that guy.
Women like to take things slow so they can trust you.
Take things slow so that you build both her trust and attraction for you.
Show her how much patience and lack of fear you have.
Most guys contact her endlessly out of fear that they’ll lose her.
What happens as a result?
They lose her.
Call her two days after your first date and make plans for four days from then.
Allow plenty of time and space between the two of you.
If you want her to maintain a strong attraction for you, you must give her the gift of missing you.
As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Calling her and texting her all day won’t allow this to happen.
Conclusion
So there you have it, my friend.
You now know the 5 rules you must follow after getting her number.
Follow these rules and you’ll see how you succeed with one woman after another.
Whether you want to date a lot of women or find that special one to be in a relationship with, follow my advice so you can win her and keep her instead of pushing her away.
Things to remember:
- Give her your number immediately
- Don’t text her throughout the day or spend hours on the phone
- Don’t call her more than once when setting up the first date
- Have fun during your first date by teasing her, being laid-back and calm. Appear extra confident in your own skin.
- End the first date without kissing her or inviting her back to your place (Be different than most men)
- Call her two days after your first date to schedule a date four days later
Always remember that you have THOUSANDS of options when it comes to women.
Walk into every date with this mindset so you know that regardless of what happens, you’ll be fine.
This mindset and attitude will come across in how you carry yourself.
Women will notice and love it.
You’ll see.
Until next time…
Your friend,
Alex
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