Chances are you’re reading this because you have fear of rejection.
It’s a very common fear among men when it comes to dating.
Maybe you got rejected by a girl once and felt horrible afterwards.
Maybe you fear that she’ll make you feel bad about yourself or embarrass you.
Whatever may be causing your fear of rejection, it isn’t important.
The one thing that is important is knowing that no matter who you are or what you have, you’ll always run into woman who will reject you.
Even if you’re the most attractive guy, you’re still going to get rejected.
Of course, there are things you can do to minimize being rejected, but nothing to completely eliminate it.
Don’t spend money on these books and dating programs that promise to teach you how to get EVERY girl to like you.
They are lying to you.
You will always come across a woman who will not be interested.
Is it your physical appearance?
Maybe.
Is it that she already has a boyfriend?
Maybe.
Is she into girls instead of guys?
Maybe.
The point is that fear of rejection is pointless.
I am going to help you eliminate it by the end of this article.
Let me tell you a story.
When I was in college, I made friends with a cool guy in a group project.
He was humble and easy to get along with.
The guy seemed to not let anything bother him.
He always smiling and making jokes.
While working on the project, he noticed two women in another group.
They were both very attractive and sexy.
He told me: “Those girls are cute; I’m going to talk to them after class”.
Now, let me just point something out before I continue…
Most guys have fear of approaching a girl when she’s alone.
This guy went up to two girls after class in front of everyone.
The only thing I thought at the time was:
“Damn, this guy has balls”.
He wasn’t any better than anyone.
He was trying to get a degree just like everyone else in class.
He was just an average guy with a worry free attitude.
After going up to the girls and getting their number, he left.
Class took place every Tuesday.
The whole week went by and I would think about the situation.
I was anxious to talk to him and find out how it went with the girls.
I also wanted to know he developed balls of steel.
When Tuesday came around, he was the same calm and laid guy.
I asked him if he hanged out with them and how it went.
Turned out the girls were actually sisters and he hanged out with the older one.
He said it was cool and that they met for drinks.
I told him: “Man, that was pretty brave to go up to both of them, most guys wouldn’t do that”.
He asked me: “Would you?”
To which I replied: “Honestly, no I probably wouldn’t”.
He asked me “Why not?”
I stayed quiet…
I didn’t know the answer but felt the anxiety inside of me.
He then added: “Realistically, what’s the worst that can happen?”
….“they’ll either say yes or they’ll say no. Who cares?”
His response led to me having an epiphany.
He was so right.
What’s the worse that CAN happen?
I’ll either set up a date with a girl I find attractive or simply never talk to her again.
99.9% of the time, that’s what would happen.
And this is what getting over the fear of rejection is all about.
You first have to accept you’ll probably get rejected.
…and if you do, it does NOT matter.
I asked him: “Do you get nervous before approaching women?
He responded: “Yeah, you’ll always feel a little nervous approaching a stranger, it’s normal, but it gets easier every time.”
And that’s the truth, my friend.
The fear of rejection will never go away.
But you’ll notice the more you approach women, the less the outcome matters.
The more natural and easy it feels.
Even if she rejects you, it doesn’t matter.
She probably won’t just because you had balls of steel and approached her.
Just the fact that you approached her says so many things about you.
This guy is confident.
This guy is fearless.
This is a guy who is brave and takes what he wants in life.
This guy will probably stand up for me.
What do you think most guys do?
They stare at her all day and never go up to simply say “hello”.
Ask woman how many of the guys that stare at her actually approach her.
Their answer will surprise you.
What do you think most women are waiting and hoping for?
For a guy with balls to go up and actually talk to her.
Women love attention.
When she gets approached, it makes her feel special.
Just approach her do these simple things.
1) Say Hello.
2) Make a comment on the situation (the location, what she’s doing, etc.).
3) Invite her for coffee, a drink, or lunch.
That’s it.
No need to try and seduce her with some bogus pickup crap they are selling on the internet these days.
No need to stare at her like an animal at the zoo.
All your doing is going up to a girl you find attractive and would like to get to know.
If you get nothing from this article, just get this:
The more you go up to women, the more it feels natural and the more success you’ll have.
Reading a book isn’t going to help much.
Staring at her will eventually freak her out.
Approaching her like a “normal” guy will lead to HUGE improvements.
Let me ask you this: Is it worth it to get rejected by 5 women in exchange to meet one very attractive, fun, smart girl who you can actually build a relationship with?
Just approach her and say hello, everything else will fall into place.
Trust me.
-Alex
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