How to Win Her Back: 10 Steps to Get Back The Woman You Love

Introduction: How To Win Her Back

Hello, my friend.

I know you’re heart broken and will do anything to win her back.

Right?

Well don’t worry.

In this article, I’ll show you exactly how to get your ex-girlfriend back.

Before we begin, there’s something you must know.

Not every woman can be won back.

It all depends on how and why things ended.

However, if there’s even the slightest chance that your relationship can be saved, this article will show you the way.

Let’s begin.

1) Don’t contact her

There’s a reason it’s #1.

The very first thing you must avoid doing is contacting her.

Why?

Because you have to give her time to miss you.

A woman who doesn’t miss you will not come back.

Why would she?

Think about it…

If you begin texting and calling her all day, you ruin your chances to win her back.

Instead of allowing her to miss you, you annoy her and push her further away.

Does that make sense?

Right now, she’s probably angry, disappointed or no longer interested in you.

Fine…That’s just how she feels RIGHT NOW.

But given enough time and space, the way she feels can quickly begin changing.

Don’t start calling, texting, buying her gifts or sending her flowers.

Like I teach you inside my book, be and give her space so you can allow her to come to you.

Got it?

“But Alex, what if I never contact her and she never comes back? How will I ever win her back?”

We’ll discuss that in just a few.

2) Stay off social media

Do not check social media because you miss her and want to see what she’s up to.

Also, do not post anything.

You must stay 100% away from social media until she comes back to you.

Period.

Remember, your goal is to get her to miss you.

If you begin posting on social media, she’ll know what you’re up to, and the feeling of missing you won’t be as powerful.

You need to trigger curiosity in her before she begins missing you.

She has to be at home thinking “I wonder what’s he’s up to?”

This is the reason why there must be ZERO contact between you and her.

Are you with me?

She must not know ANYTHING about you.

Before you know it, she’ll start wondering where you are and what you’re up to.

This will automatically lead her to start missing you.

…Which is exactly what you want.

3) Self-improvement

What do most guys do after losing a woman?

They let themselves go by becoming depressed instead of doing things that will win her back.

Look, my friend, I get it…You miss her.

I remember how much it hurt when an ex-girlfriend left me.

However, sitting at her home depressed will only make things worse.

You have to work on yourself, especially after a break-up.

Begin going to the gym 5-6 days a week if you’re not already doing so.

Read positive and motivational books like How to Win Friends and Influence People and The Power of Now.

Go for long walks around your neighborhood while listening to a comedy podcasts or your favorite music.

The goal here is to stimulate your mind so you can relax instead of dwelling on the situation.

Do whatever necessary to get out of the house.

Let me share a little secret with you that most women will never admit.

Here it is…

Women desire a man who wants her, but doesn’t need her.

See the difference?

In other words, they want a man who enjoys being with her, but who would be fine if she left him.

If you begin letting yourself go, you give her confirmation that she did the right thing by leaving you.

Why?

Because you INSTANTLY communicate that you NEED her.

Listen to me…

She wants to be an important part of your life, but doesn’t want to feel like she’s your only purpose for getting up in the morning.

This is not sexy to women.

It’s perfectly fine to miss her and be sad about the break-up.

You’re human, not a robot.

However, it’s not fine for you to let your world fall apart because she’s gone.

You must have respect for yourself, especially if you want to win her back.

Always remember this…

She wants to be your girlfriend, not your mommy.

She wants you to have a strong and masculine character.

A man with a sense of independence who accepts the situation and moves on with his life.

“But Alex, how will she know that I’m focused on self-improvement if I don’t contact her or post anything on social media?”

We’ll discuss that in just a few.

4) Keep your mind busy

You must keep busy or else you’ll think about her non-stop like you do right now.

Besides self-improvement, begin working on a new project.

It can be building something, starting a part-time side business, or staring a new hobby.

It must be something that you enjoy doing.

Your mind is a powerful tool.

Unless you keep busy, you’ll think about her anytime you’re not focused on something.

It doesn’t matter what it is, just find something to occupy your mind.

Will you still think of her?

Absolutely.

But just be patient and know things will get better.

5) Get away (plan a trip)

If possible, you need to get away to disconnect from the break-up entirely.

You don’t have to spend thousands of dollars on a trip, but go somewhere.

This can be something as simple as a road trip to a part of town that’s a couple hours away, or maybe even driving or flying to another state if you have the time and funds.

Ask a friend or family member to tag along.

Going somewhere you’ve never been is a great way to stimulate your mind because it will lead to new experiences.

New experiences are incredibly helpful after a break-up.

Trust me.

6) Don’t think the worse

Like I said above, even if you keep busy, you’ll still think about her often.

It’s inevitable. 

One thought you probably have right now is what she’s up to and with who.

Stop it.

The reality is that she probably isn’t dating anyone new.

However, since you miss her, your mind will lead you to think the worse.

Whether she’s moved on or not, it doesn’t matter.

Honestly, it’s none of your business so there’s no reason to care.

Your only concern right now is giving her enough time and space to miss you so that she wants to see you again.

There’s no reason for you to drive yourself crazy by thinking the worst.

Chances are that she’s doing the same thing you’re doing right now…thinking about each other.

Just remain calm, stay busy and allow the situation time to fix itself.

7) Call her to set up a date

After you’ve given her adequate time and space, and she hasn’t contacted you, it’s time for you to contact her.

This is the moment of truth, my friend, so you must prepare mentally.

If you call her to schedule a date and she says “no”, it’s possible that you can’t win her back.

However, if there is a chance, she’ll agree to meet you.

You’re probably wondering: “What’s adequate time and space?”

There is no magic number, but what I’ve found to work best is waiting three weeks (21 days).

This allows her enough time to miss you and get over whatever you did to disappoint her.

After three weeks go by, you’re going to give her a call and say the following:

“Yes (insert name here)? Hi, how are you? I wanted to call because yes, I know we broke up but I wanted to see how you’ve been and catch up with you. Would you say yes to meeting me for lunch?”

What’s so magical about this dialogue?

I’ll give you a clue.

Did you notice how many times I say the word “yes”?

Three times.

Why did I do this?

This is actually a sales tactic used to persuade people.

When someone hears the word “yes” three times, it DRAMATICALLY improves the chances that they’ll say yes when you make them an offer.

Your goal here is to persuade her to see you and not allow her mind to come up with reasons why she shouldn’t.

Does that make sense?

If she agrees to see you, you’ll be on your way to winning her back.

Set up a day and time to meet for lunch and say this:

“Great, I’ll see you there. If anything comes up from here til then, I’ll let you know. Otherwise, I’ll just see you there.”

Do not call or text her anymore until you see her.

Wait until the date to talk to her again.

8) What to do during your lunch date

It’s important to be positive during the date.

She needs to know and feel that you’re doing just fine without her.

It’s OK to tell her that you’ve missed her, but don’t say it more than once.

Don’t begin asking her about getting back together.

Talk to her about how much you have going on in your life.

You can share stories about the gym, your trip if you take one, the new book you started reading and your new hobby or project.

She needs to know that there’s A LOT going on in your life.

That there’s excitement, movement and progress.

This is what’s going to allow you to win her back.

Read those last three sentences again.

Do NOT ask her what’s she done or with who.

You’ll appear extremely insecure.

Let her tell you whatever she wants to tell you.

You can ask her about work or if anything exciting has been going on in her life.

But do ask anything regarding her going on dates or talking to other men.

After lunch, it’s important that you end the date and go your separate ways.

This might be hard for you to do, especially if the date goes well.

You’ll want to spend the day with her because you’ve missed her.

Don’t.

You must make her feel like you’re not desperate to get back with her.

She already knows that you want to rekindle the relationship.

After all, why else would you have met her for lunch?

However, it’s important that you don’t appear desperate and needy.

Remember, she wants you to want her but not need her.

You need to come across as a man who has self-control and isn’t miserable without her.

9) Let her come to you

After your lunch date, allow her to come to you.

If you did everything I showed you in this article, she won’t be able to stop thinking about you.

Eventually, she’ll reach out to you and tell you that she had a good time on your lunch date.

At this point, say the following:

“Me too. I’m working on a few things this week, but maybe we can do dinner and movie next Friday?”

Boom!

At this point, you’ll be back in control and inches away from winning her back.

She won’t be able to stop thinking about you until your dinner and movie night.

Beautiful.

10) Change your mistakes

Once you win her back, it’s important that you avoid mistakes you made in the past.

Were you clingy?

Would you complain a lot?

Did you want to spend ALL your time with her?

Think about all the things that pushed her away and make sure you don’t them again.

A lot of men push women away because they “suffocate” them by ALWAYS being around.

Every woman needs her space so that she constantly feels what it’s like when you’re not around.

This brings me to my next point…

Bonus: #11) Give her the gift of missing you

What’s one of the BEST ways to keep a woman interested after you win her back?

Give her the gift of missing you.

What does this mean?

Like I teach you inside my book, it means that you give her plenty of space.

By giving her space, you accomplish three great things:

• You communicate that you have your own life
• She’s happy when she sees you and treasures those moments
• She wants to keep you happy in hopes of seeing you more often

Remember if you’re always around her, there’s no more surprises.

She knows you’ll be there today, tomorrow, next week and so on.

Woman are beautiful but complicated creatures.

They hate predictability and lose attraction for men that don’t keep her guessing.

Many of the things women want and desire in men don’t make any logical sense.

“Missing you” is one of those things.

Have you ever heard the following saying: “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”

Well, it’s true, my friend.

Once you win her back, you must give her the gift of missing you.

If you don’t, she won’t fall back in love with you and will most likely leave again.

How do you give her the gift of missing you?

Do self-improvement things that don’t include her, hang out with your friends, go read a book, go to the mall…anything!

Have your own life and show complete independence.

I’m not telling you to only see her once a week and to never hang out with her.

But what I am telling you is to be careful not to include her in EVERYTHING!

Does that make sense?

Conclusion

So there you have it.

You now have the fail-proof plan to win her back.

Remember not to contact her for three weeks.

I understand that this won’t be easy and that your mind with tell you “Call her now”.

But trust me that calling and texting her will only push her further away.

Let me say it again…You must allow her time to think about you and miss you.

A curious woman is much easier to win back than an annoyed woman who’s tired of you texting and calling her every hour.

Until next time…

Your friend,

Alex