People Don’t Like When You Change
What happens when all of sudden you decide to change and better yourself?
When you tell all your friends “I’m going to start working on my business instead of hanging out on the weekends”.
Unless they join you and decide to get to work instead of “having fun”…
They won’t be happy about the idea.
Why?
Is it because they’re not really your friends?
Is it that they don’t want to see you improve or be better than them?
Or is it because they’re scared to lose you as a friend?
The truth is that it can be a million different things.
However, it’s important to understand something.
When you change, the things people do to manipulate you, stop working.
…and they don’t like that.
Your friends might be manipulating you now to hang out on weekends.
“Come on man, don’t make me out go out alone. Stop being boring, why would you stay in the house? It’s not like you’re doing anything at home anyways”.
They make you feel guilty about not hanging out.
However, once you start staying home to do something productive, it’s different.
They can’t make you feel guilty about doing something that will better your life.
Instead, they begin to feel guilty for not doing something productive themselves.
Going out doesn’t feel as fun as it use to because they know their wasting valuable time.
Maybe they’re not as motivated as you.
Most people are complacent and don’t want to achieve more in life.
They want to spend the weekends having drinks, partying, or doing other activities.
…and if you are suddenly unavailable, they have no one else to join them.
All of sudden, their comfortable life becomes uncomfortable.
Does this make sense?
Most people resist change.
They have their usual, comfortable routine.
Work during the week, hang out with friends on the weekends.
Even though this doesn’t bring as much satisfaction as having their own business would, they choose to settle.
But you’re different.
You want more.
…and you’ll have more.
People who manipulate you to stay the same aren’t necessarily doing it to harm you.
They just don’t want to lose your companionship.
How they react to you changing and achieving more in life is up to them.
You’re only job is to do what makes you a happier and better person.
-Alex
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