So you met a great girl.
She’s pretty, smart, and funny.
You guys have a great connection.
You’ve been dating and everything is great.
But there’s one problem…
She has many guy friends.
Woman with many guy friends are perceived as “slutty” or “manly”.
So now you sitting there asking yourself:
“Why wouldn’t she hang out with other woman?”
“Guys do guy things. Drink, play sports, etc. Why is she there?”
So I’m going to give you the reality of the situation.
I’ve seen many men dealing with this.
I myself have met these types of woman.
The truth is some women who have a lot of guy friends are the “slutty” type.
However, I said SOME…not all.
Some woman just genuinely relate better to guys and don’t have a lot of girl friends.
Bad experiences like their girl friends talking bad about them, lying to them, etc. has led to choose being friends with guys instead.
It’s understandable.
So what do you do?
Well…
In all honesty, you only have two options:
1) You accept it
2) You don’t
You can’t tell her NOT to hang out with her guy friends.
And threatening to leave her if she does will only lead to problems and breaking up.
You can’t control or change anyone.
People are a specific way because they enjoy being that way.
They do what they want and like.
Period.
I admit that it’s not something I like or prefer in a woman.
I prefer woman with girl friends that spend their time away from me doing girl things.
If she’s going to be doing “guy things”, shouldn’t she be doing them with you?
What’s the moral of the story?
You have to decide RIGHT NOW whether you’ll accept this or not.
Can you deal with it day after day, month after month?
If you can’t, then end it.
It isn’t going to go away.
She will hang out with her guy friends and you will have to accept it if you stay.
Don’t waste your time or hers.
-Alex
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Allen says
Hi Alex, i read your article and its makes sense. My girlfriend have a clique of friends, 4 guys 2 girls including herself. I had this problem of her hanging with out the guys. As i feel insecure and jealous very easily. She said she had history with those friends and she value them alot. And she say she knew what she doing and want me to trust her. We quarrelled and some what solved. I gonna accept it. One thing is if she hang out the guys and do the guys things and im not free to join. What am i suppose to do? Should i just let her go and keep worrying about things will happened to her? She asked me to trust her but she herself are very clumsy and seem easily to get hurt by others. What should i do?