She Won't Change

I’ve seen the following situation many times:

A guy gets involved with a girl who has one thing he doesn’t like.

She likes to go out and party a lot.

She’s flirty and constantly craves attention.

…and so on.

Of course, no relationship is perfect.

However, if a girl has something about her that constantly bothers you; getting “serious” should be the last thing on your mind.

Why do guys become involved with the girl anyways?

It can be either sex or because they feel they can “change” her.

Guess what?

You probably won’t.

That’s just her personality.

She’s the way she is for one reason and one reason only:

It makes her happy.

Partying a lot makes her happy.

Being around guy friends makes her happy.

Being flirty and getting attention makes her happy.

Can you make her happy?

Of course.

Will you be with her all day, every day?

No.

Will she automatically want to stop doing things that make her happy just because she’s with you?

Probably not.

When you’re not around, she’ll revert to her old ways.

So my advice is to not rush into things when you meet a new girl.

Really get to know her and what she’s like.

What does she do on her free time?

What are her values?

Does she appear to be someone who will be worth your time and energy?

Or is she just going to cause you stress, drama, and concern?

There’s A LOT of women on this planet.

Whatever one girl has could be found in another girl who has even more to offer.

Don’t settle.

-Alex

She Won’t Change