Dating is meant to be fun.
Yes, women want to get to know you and don’t expect you to act like a clown during your dates.
However, they also doesn’t want you to be boring, nervous, serious or too forward.
Many men are all of the above during the first couple of dates.
They ask boring questions like “What do you do for a living?” or “What did you study in school?” or “What’s your family like?”.
There’s nothing wrong with these questions.
On the other hand, there’s no reason to ask them so early on.
Especially not during the FIRST date.
Your first couple of dates should have a fun and relaxed vibe.
She wants stimulating conversation, not an interrogation.
Ask her questions about her favorite memory, where she’s traveled, where she wants to go next, and so on.
Build on her responses.
Instead of asking her back to back questions, listen for clues to add to what she says.
Example:
Her: “I went to Mexico and the beach was awesome”
You: “That sounds amazing. I bet you loved going outside your hotel and seeing the white-sand beach, big palm trees, and clear water. I’m sure you’d go back right now if you could. Mexico is paradise.”
See what I did there?
I stimulated her mind by taking her back to that place.
If you sit there asking her personal questions all night, she’s going to be tense and bored out of her mind.
The only thing she’ll be thinking is “How much longer before this ends?”.
Like I teach you inside Dating Mastery, your only job is to stimulate her mind and let her talk.
Women can’t help but feel happy and excited when talking about their good memories or places they want to go.
With that said, I’m going to give you one thing you should do that will keep your dates interesting, playful and fun.
This technique has worked for me countless times.
Here it is.
Be mysterious about one thing.
How to be mysterious about one thing
It can be anything:
- Where you’re from
- What you do for a living. (My personal favorite)
- Your age
- Where you live
You get the point.
The goal here is to only choose ONE thing to be mysterious about.
If you’re mysterious about a lot of things, you’ll come across as foolish and immature.
You can share anything else you want with her except the thing you choose to be mysterious about.
Tease her by telling her she hasn’t earned enough brownie points to know yet and that she needs to work harder.
She’ll laugh and beg you to tell her.
Don’t.
Hold back until the third or fourth date when it’s obvious the two of you will continue seeing each other.
Why it works
Like I teach you inside my book, women LOVE and NEED mystery.
She wants to wonder and think about you all day long.
It’s YOUR job to make that happen.
Women hate predictability.
If you’re too forward and tell her EVERYTHING about you, what is there left to look forward to?
It’s perfectly fine to tell her everything about you, it’s just a bad idea to do it too early on.
You MUST allow her interest and attraction for you to grow.
By being mysterious about one thing, not only does it increase her attraction for you, but it makes her feel like she hasn’t won you over yet.
A lot of men are so easy to win over that women lose all interest right off the bat.
When you’re easily won over, it makes you appear desperate and like you have a scarcity mindset.
You come from a fearful place of “I better not screw this up with her because who knows how long before I get another date”.
Do you think women find that mindset attractive?
Easy answer.
Make her work a little for what she wants.
By being mysterious about one thing, you’re not playing games with women – you’re giving them what they really want.
Anyone who tells you any different is clueless.
Want proof?
Be mysterious about one thing next time you meet and begin dating a woman.
You’ll see the magic happen right before your eyes.
Every time she asks you about whatever you’re being mysterious about, tell her “You still haven’t earned the right to know yet. But the good news is that you’ve made a little progress”.
She’ll laugh and probably play hit you.
The tension and attraction between the two of you will remain high and the date will be fun.
You’ll see.
Talk soon,
Alex Writer
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