How Often Should I See My Girlfriend?
So you’re asking yourself “How often should I see my girlfriend”?
Why are you asking yourself this?
Simple.
You met a girl you really liked.
You mad her your girlfriend.
And now you’re worried about messing things up and losing her.
Am I right so far?
Yes?
I thought so.
To prevent losing her, you know that you should give her your time and attention.
But, you also don’t want to appear clingy and needy.
Long story short, you want to make sure you do everything right so you can keep her.
Right?
Look man, I get it.
She’s great.
She’s everything you ever wanted.
It took you long enough to find her, and you doubt you’ll ever find another girl as great as her.
First things first…RELAX!
There are PLENTY of women who are just like her, and yes, even better than her.
Why did I just say that?
Because when you have a scarcity mindset, you bring that into your relationship.
Women are AMAZING at picking up on your insecurities.
If you’re worried about losing her and decide to see her often so that it doesn’t happen, guess what?
She will notice!
As I teach you inside Dating Mastery (click here to download your copy), insecurity is a MAJOR turn off for women.
If you act insecure, you will undeniably push your girlfriend away.
What’s the moral of the story?
Seeing your girlfriend everyday is a BAD idea!
If you’re doing it…STOP!
I don’t want to hear that she’s your best friend, that you never argue, and that your relationship is different from everyone else’s.
I want you to STOP seeing her every day!
Can you do that?
No?
Stop reading because this article won’t help you.
Yes?
Let’s continue.
Why Seeing Your Girlfriend Everyday is A Bad Idea
“OK Alex, I get it. You want me to stop seeing her every day. But why?”
OK, my friend, I’ll tell you why.
Seeing your girlfriend every day doesn’t allow one very important thing from happening.
What’s that thing?
The opportunity to miss each other.
Why is this important?
Because you never experience what it’s like to be without each other.
When you don’t see each other every day, you discover how much you really like each other.
A women who experiences feelings of missing her boyfriend falls deeper and DEEPER in love every time she misses him.
It’s that feeling of missing you that makes her want to stay with you.
Does that make sense?
However, not seeing her everyday does something else POWERFUL for your relationship.
It prevents the relationship from becoming predictable and boring.
Why?
Simple.
If you see each other DAILY, there’s no more surprises.
You know what’s happening tomorrow right?
You’ll see each other.
You know what’s happening next week Tuesday right?
You’re going to see each other.
Are you following me?
It may seem harmless now, but the longer you and your girlfriend are together, the FASTER things will become predictable and boring.
A relationship that becomes predictable and boring will FAIL 100% of time.
Walk up to any women in the street and ask her if she’s ever broken up with a guy because the relationship lost its “spark”.
I guarantee she’ll say “yes” or tell you that she knows of another women who has.
Listen, my friend, if you want to keep your girlfriend happy, excited, and into you…then you need to keep the fire burning in your relationship.
The moment you become predictable, she’ll begin wanting to spend less and less time with you.
She’ll become distant.
Eventually she’ll ask for space or tell you that she wants to break up.
Women who leave their boyfriends often say things like:
“It was great at the beginning and I really liked him, but I don’t know, I just started to feel different about him for some reason...I saw him more as a friend than a boyfriend.”
Unfortunately, this happens to men all over the world.
…But it doesn’t have to happen to you!
How Many Times A Week Should You See Your Girlfriend?
“OK Alex, you convinced me, I’ll stop seeing my girlfriend every day, but how many times a week is acceptable then?”
The answer is simple, my friend.
The trick is to switch things up.
Let me explain.
The issue isn’t really seeing your girlfriend every day; it’s her knowing when she’s going to see you.
See the difference?
Believe it or not, it’s OK to have a week here and there where you see her daily.
It’s nice to bond for an entire week and spend time just the two of you on a trip or something.
This is how memories are created.
However, if you see her daily and stay at home watching a movie, eating, or staring at your phones – you’ll be well on your way to a predictable relationship that will lack intimacy, excitement, and passion.
Here’s what I personally do.
I constantly switch up how often I see my girlfriend.
Some weeks I’ll see her once or twice.
Other weeks, I’ll see her four or five times.
This week I might see her Monday, Friday, and Saturday.
Next week I might see her just Thursday and Sunday.
This week we might do dinner and a movie.
Next week I might take her on a surprise trip.
Stop for a minute and read those last seven sentences again.
…Do you see what’s happening?
I’m not allowing the relationship to become predictable.
She never knows exactly how often we’ll see each other or when.
I always give her time and space to miss me.
Is this playing mind games or is it giving her what she really wants?
Well, if it prevents our relationship from becoming boring, then I think it’s giving her what she really wants.
WOMEN NEED SPACE!
They need time to think, hang with their friends to shop and gossip, go the gym, do their nails, and most importantly, to miss you!
On days you don’t see her, you can give her a quick 5-10 minute phone call to talk about her day.
Even texting a few times throughout the day is fine.
Just don’t make it an all day thing.
As long as you don’t see each other every single day, week after week, the relationship will be fine.
All things considered, of course.
Your girlfriend shouldn’t be the only thing going on in your life.
As a man, you should always have hobbies that don’t include your girlfriend.
She should always feel like you care about her but that you can live without her.
In other words, yeah you like her a lot, but if she were to leave you, you’d be perfectly fine.
Believe it or not, just this one quality is extremely attractive to women and will keep her around you.
Take guitar lessons, go mountain biking with friends, join a boxing gym, or any other hobby you’d like.
One of the BEST things you can is lose body fat if you’ve gained some weight.
NOTHING makes your girlfriend want you more than improving yourself.
This automatically makes her want you MORE every time she sees you, trust me.
Always communicate you’re an independent person who values yourself and constantly improves.
You’re girlfriend should add to your happiness and joy in life, not be the only reason for it.
As a side benefit, your personal hobbies will give you something to talk to her about.
So stop asking yourself “How often should I see my girlfriend“.
Instead, constantly switch it up, and you’ll be fine.
Note: I’m not telling you to make a schedule every week with your girlfriend.
Don’t call her on Sunday and say “Hey, this week I’m seeing you Monday and Thursday.”
That’s just plain weird and silly.
Just go with the flow.
If you see her today, plan something else to do without her tomorrow.
Good luck!
You can thank me later.
Talk soon,
-Alexander Writer
Dennis says
Thanks man, that’s a good piece of advise!
Alex (Administrator) says
My pleasure, Dennis.
George says
Hey Alex. Thanks for the tips. My girlfriend and I always question this everyday and we dont know a healthy way to tackle it since we are culprits of seeing and being with each other everyday. She hasn’t even said the words, “I miss you” in a while now. So it concerns me a bit that she could be getting bored or smothered in our relationship as in the beginning we used to be quite sparatic on hanging out. It wasn’t often, but it was maybe 2-3 times a week. I wish we could get back to that and hear how much she misses me throughout the day. Days when she sometimes asked for space, we wouldnt text or talk to each other for a WHOLE day, and by the end of the night, she usually would text me and say “Hi, I really miss you and love you”. I’ll try to use this advice to the best of my ability. We’ve been seeing each other too much for the past couple of months, do you think she would believe that I’m losing interest in her if we both started seeing each other less?
Alex (Administrator) says
George,
I recommend you cut back on how often you’re seeing each other. All healthy relationships require space and the opportunity for both people to miss each other. I’d also recommend you start a new hobby or project (if you’re not doing so already). This will be something you can share with your girlfriend that she’ll admire about you. It’s always good to have a lot going on in your own life. The goal is to make your girlfriend feel like you want and enjoy being with her but would also be OK on your own.
Of course, this doesn’t mean you tell her in a rude way: “Hey, guess what? I’d be just fine without you”. It means you make it obvious in subtle ways. Also, make sure you constantly improve yourself. A man who is constantly improving in all areas of his life is very attractive to women. Hit the gym often, groom yourself, take a course on something you know nothing about. You get the idea. But for right now, let’s start with cutting back on how often you’re seeing her.
Best of luck,
-Alex
freddie says
Hi alex, just wanna thank you for this as all of your articles have opened my eyes. I have been in a happy and good relationship for over a year and it was going really well up until we both went to university. The first couple of months were okay and we missed eachother but it worked. However i have recently started being clingy and she is feeling suffocated and doesn’t miss me because i’m always checking up on her. We had a massive heart to heart about it that almost left us broken up and left us both feeling very drained but she says she still loves and doesn’t want to give us up and reading your article has made me realise how important it is for relationships to have space especially after a long period of time. so i just wanna thank you because reading this has made me feel a lot better about not only myself but my relationship.
Alex (Administrator) says
Freddie,
Comments like this are one the things that keep me motivated to continue writing more and more content and help others. I’m very glad to hear that my article made you feel better and that it taught you a very important lesson that’ll go on to affect the rest of your life in a positive way. Best of luck to you in the future!
-Alex
gideon says
Ayo’ brother Alex I’m intrigued by the article. I just wanna know something, my girlfriend always wants to see me , & at first I didn’t have much of a problem. Right now , I don’t know why I’ve become so clingy like nothings changed , but I feel to see her more than she wants to see me. I would love to hear what u think about tis’!
Alex (Administrator) says
How often do you see each other now? Daily?
freddie says
hi alex its me again, things are still a bit up in the air at the moment, me and my girlfriend didnt speak for a number of days and then she rang me 6 days later and we had loads to talk about obviously and we were laughing and joking etc but she says she is still unsure about what she wants. i think its because she feels responsible for my happiness which she was for a period of time but shes not anymore ive found new things to try and focus on. we are both at uni and i think she wants to maybe have a phone call every few days but then not see eachother every week which sounds rubbish but at the same time we are both going to be very busy with uni work and seeing her less often will make us miss eachother more i guess what im asking is if she doesnt know what she wants should i make her see that she is overthinking and is seeing eachother every other week healthy or not?
freddie
Alex (Administrator) says
Freddie,
Not speaking for 6 days is a big red flag. Something’s definitely not right here, my friend. I hate to be the one to tell you but I get the sense that there might be another guy in the picture (not 100% sure but there’s a good chance). People in relationships don’t go 6 days without talking. Send me an email if you want to have a more private conversation about this. inertiawillhurtya@gmail.com
If you don’t talk for 6 days (which is PLENTY of space), and she still isn’t sure what she wants…it’s time to end it because trust me when I tell you that she’s close to doing so herself.
-Alex
Vergil says
Dude im in a relationship for almost a year and e months… im seeing her everyday and i kinda have this problem about “Missing” Because i dont miss her at all although I see her everyday in university…
Is it too late to impliment the strategy for seeing her often? 2-3 times a week? Because I really want to feel Missing Her!
Thanks man!
Alex (Administrator) says
No it’s not too late, Vergil. Start tomorrow!
Tom says
Hey Alex,
Thank you so much for your advice. I start dating a girl three weeks ago and now I just can’t getting her out off my mind. We knew each other for months and she is the girl I dreamed in a daily basis. I didn’t know her real feeling towards me until recently. We start going out more often and almost seeing each other everyday. Like you said, before reading your article I was thinking that she is the prefect one for me and this is my once in life time chance to be with somebody so prefect. Getting the dream girl just drove me crazy and I start to notice that I am becoming more clingy and needy as we getting to know each other more. I feel so lucky that I came across your article before ruining this relationship. Thanks again.
Just a few more questions, how should I call or text her to make me more unpredictable? And when to text her? I feel I am blind by my passion and I want to text and constantly checking her. Any advice?
Tom
Alex (Administrator) says
Don’t text her constantly. Remember, it’s not when you text her, it’s how often you text her. As long as you give her space and the opportunity to miss you, everything should be OK. All things considered, of course. Relationships tend to have problems when people spend way too much time together. And always remember, Tom, if anything ever goes bad and you guys break-up, you will meet another girl just as great as her. I promise. So don’t ever be scared to lose her, my friend. 🙂
Joel says
Hey Alex,i started dating this girl like 2 weeks ago,but we have been meet only 2 times bcuz we both are busy working 5 days a week but,i really like this girl and she likes me,i know there are so many girls like her and even better than her,but I just wana know how often should I text her and call her,or when she is outside hanging with friends,do u think its better if I can give her space ? Any advice ?
Joel
Alex (Administrator) says
Joel,
Don’t text her when she’s out with friends. That’s her “girl time” and the last thing she wants to do is be rude to her friends while texting you. As far as texting her throughout the day, text her as you normally would. You say you’re busy with work so I doubt you’ll be able to text her all day. It’s fine to send a good morning text and a couple of text throughout the day.
You can give her a call sometimes at night. Just don’t spend HOURS on the phone with her. Talk about each other’s day, your next date, and then let her know you’re going to go down something (gym, watch a movie, play basketball, or anything else) and that you’ll text her tomorrow. You should have other things going on in your life besides this new girl. Good luck!
-Alex
Alex says
Hey Alex,
I have been with my girlfriend for a couple months and we were seeing each other a 3-5 times a week. It is my first serious relationship, and we have both expressed our feelings about the future and I thought we were on the same page. Lately though she began canceling plans to hang out multiple days in a row. We recently went on a 3 day trip and had a nice time, but she immediately went back to avoiding me when we got back. It is to the point where I only saw her for 2 hours this week. It really hurts my feelings and when I asked her about it she said she just needed her space and to see her friends more. I would be fine with that but she has also been distant when texting/talking on the phone and is not as affectionate as before. We text everyday but she sometimes takes hours to respond and does return any terms of endearment when doing so. After reading your article I feel like I may have already ruined the relationship by being too clingy. I feel like she is already not missing me and we are already barely seeing each other. I am worried she may be seeing someone else and that is why she is canceling our plans so frequently. I feel like I should stop texting/calling her until she contacts me but I don’t want to make things worse. What should I do?
Alex (Administrator) says
Alex,
Yes, it appears that you were spending too much time together and that, unfortunately, you’re relationship became a little boring and predictable. Once a woman begins asking for “space”, it’s a clear sign that you were giving her WAY TOO MUCH attention. I recommend not contacting her as often. You need to get busy and start doing other things with your free time. Things that don’t involve her. This might fix the problem. However, if it doesn’t and it leads to a break-up, DO NOT WORRY. Yes, it’s going to suck at first. Yes, you’re going to miss her. Yes, you’re going to feel bad. But you will get over it and meet someone else. Keep me posted on what happens and we’ll go from there.
For now, don’t text or call her. Allow her to come to you. “Space” is exactly what this relationship needs right now. It will either prove to her that she really does care about you and just needed to feel what it was like to miss you again. Or it will show her that she no longer feels the same way and that it’s time to break-up. Regardless of what it is, you both need to find out as soon as possible.
-Alex
William says
Hey Alex,
I’ve been troubled about something like this and your article moved some weight of my chest. So, I’ve been seeing this girl for 5 months now, Im her first boyfriend, (shes not my first but I want to be my last) and we’ve been having a great time. Were both in college and were both almost graduating, Ill be graduating by this year while she’s gonna graduate next year. After graduation were probably be going to be in LDR for a long time, so I’ve wanted to spend a lot of time with her now while I still have a chance, thats one of the bigger reasons, I just really wanna see her and be around her, maybe I’m too clingy, I don’t know. Anyways these days shes rather free and her school load isnt that much so Ive been wanting to see her, weve been seeing each other everyday and its been fun, however she has these times where she just says she doesn’t wanna see me. Shes totally free, she has a strict curfew, so I offer to just go to her house, she still doesn’t want to see me though. I get it that she needs space and that she need to have her own time, but still weighs heavy on me, I don’t wanna regret not taking this opportunity to spend as much time while we can. She has a lot of personality quirks as well which really causes causes my troubles and anxiety, shes introverted, she says a lot that she prefers being alone, she would be okay not talking or seeing me for days/weeks, and the bad time that she told me that she still kindda has this mentality of being single. She asks for time and sometimes she asks that I help convince her out of this mentality since Im the more experienced one, but Im caught in this thing where I don’t know if I’m doing just right to make us work, or too much that it’s causing her to get turned off.
I love her and I can say that she really really loves me, I want us to work out. Its just Im a sensitive guy, need a lot of reassurance I guess, and I tend to overthink things. I wanna apply your advice and hope it makes us better. But Id really like other things that might help us, she has a lot of personality quirks and I do to, so any advice that would help I would appreciate as well as give me peace of mind.
Thanks
Alexander Writer says
Next year is a long time away so I wouldn’t worry about the LDR for now. Also, spending a bunch of time with her now because she’s leaving NEXT year is not a good idea. You said “She has these times where she doesn’t want to see me” – and that’s because she NEEDS her space. Make sure you give her space voluntarily, not just when she asks for it. (This is very important).
You’ve only been with her 5 months, William. I know everything seems amazing now, but you need to give it a lot more time before you start thinking that this might be the last woman you ever want to be with. If you were able to meet and date her, then you can meet and date another women, so don’t ever fear losing her. Just take it day by day, give her space, and have fun together.
Pan says
Hi Alex
I started dating a girl this summer in my home town. We’ve been bf&gf for about 3 weeks and we both like each other a lot.
We are also each others first relationship.
Thing is we are studying in different towns. However the distance isn’t too long and we can visit each other every month.
Something like: I visit her for 3-4 days and she does the same 2 weeks later. And we can finally spend 2-3 weeks together on Christmass vacations, Eater, whole of summer etc.
We also both like going on excursions and short vacations so obviously we’re going to be doing that whenever given the chance.
When we are out hours seem to run like water, but we are also both not the type to text the sh*t out of each other and chat for hours.
How should I go about this? Do you think it can work?
Any thought/tips are welcome 🙂
Alexander Writer says
Pan,
Every relationship is different so I can’t say for sure. However, I think that you’ll see each other often enough to make it work. For some relationships, 2 weeks without seeing each other is way too long, while for others it’s exactly what’s necessary. I believe that if you like each other a lot the way you explained, and if you keep in constant contact, that this should work. You don’t have to text her all day, but make sure to check in with her at least once a day. I also recommend you call her sometimes instead of just texting. Since you’ll go two weeks without seeing each other, it’s a good idea that she hears your voice over the phone instead of just reading your text.
Chris says
Hey Alex. Thanks so much for the advice it really helped me. I been doing exactly what you said but the thing is..what if I can only see her on the weekends or even once a week if Im lucky? Is that a good thing? Bc it just doesn’t seem right to me and I need your help!
Alexander Writer says
I think it’s best to see each other 2-3 times during the week. Most of that time should be on the weekend if you both work during the week.
Tyler says
Hey Alex this article really spoke to me. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months we saw eachother everyday practically lived together she had a miss carriage and changed everything emotions everywhere took a 3 day break then went on a trip and re connected now are closer then ever. Space sucks sometimes bc yes you do feel like you actually miss them and you need to be busy to get your mind off it but every week you have something to look forward too and that’s awesome. Space isn’t a negative thing it’s a test if you are ment to be time will tell.
Alexander Writer says
Excellent comment, Tyler. I especially like what you said about space not being a negative thing, but a test to see if your meant to be. And yes, time will tell.
jacob says
the article i was looking for thank u so much
Alexander Writer says
My pleasure, Jacob! Glad it helped!
Thunrow says
Thanks Alex! I understood I ran into this problem with my ex -gf.
Now I’m in relationship with another girl for around 2 months. and the thing is opposite. I have my own project. I’m reviewing high school maths, physics, chemistry, biology to see how I feel since I was really lazy at high school and barely graduated. I feel I should realöy dedicate all my time for this since I got unpaid holiday for over half a year for this project. After I’ve studied many hours I don’t feel like texting or meeeting her but I just want to relax. I’m thinking of asking her to return to be just friends but I’m not sure is ot the right decision or should I just say to her “sorry I need my own time and maybe I van meet you once a week”. This way I’m thinking that I’d be really bad boyfriend.
Alexander Writer says
The only wrong decision is forcing yourself to do something that you don’t want to do. As long as you’re honest with her and don’t make any false promises, you won’t be doing anything wrong.
Sammy says
I love my girl too much but , she’s different from other girls, just last to last week, i proposed her n she said yes , then today i saw there was a tattoo in his hand named of some other guy now i dont know what should i do, i dont want to loose her
Plz give me some idea at this situation
Alexander Writer says
Is it a new tattoo?
Kevin says
Dear Alexander, thank you so much for your advices…..
Alexander Writer says
My pleasure, Kevin.
Curtis says
Me and my girlfriend have saw each other everyday for the past year almost, and we both are loosing interest were currently on a break is there anyway we can save this realtionship
Alexander Writer says
Hi Curtis,
A lot of space is the only thing that can work. If you do end up getting back together, take this is as a lesson learned and don’t see her daily like before. Best of luck, bud.
Brian says
Hey Alexander,
Been reading through these comments and gotten some good advice from it, but I’d like to tell my situation also.
I’m 18 and in my last year of high school, and I’m dating a girl who goes to another high school. She’s 17. Anyways, she comes from a somewhat unforgiving family, her parents don’t EVER drive her to her job or school and I feel bad which most of the time results in me driving her. I don’t want her to be abandoned or without a ride because the walks would be very long. It’s hard for me to tell her no, especially when I’m usually available to pick her up. If I ever tell her no, she typically will ask why, and if I don’t have a legitimate reason she will get upset. I don’t want that obviously so I’m generous with driving her. I don’t mind it at all either, I love having her company and I consider driving her just another opportunity to enjoy myself. Is this bad, and if so what do I say to tell her I’m not giving her a ride, even if I’m not busy?
She does something similar with us hanging out, now we hang out pretty much every day. But don’t get me wrong, I love hanging out with her and very seldom feel as if I’m bored. At the end of each day one of us will usually ask if we’re hanging out tomorrow. Again, if I tell her no she will get upset. Whenever I have tried reasoning with her about the fact that I have other things to do, she will just get more upset. So I will just concede and allow her to come over instead of fighting it. Is there a way to go about this without me severely upsetting her and tainting our relationship? I know we need more time apart, but I don’t know how to tell her without some kind of disaster occurring.
I feel myself becoming more attached. Just tonight I had an emotional breakdown and immediately went to her to express my feelings. I trust her more than anyone. And since she’s nearly my age I find it easy to talk about problems with her. I would with my dad but he is incredibly narrow minded. Anyways, the conversation was over text so it was tough to explain and I get the idea that she interpreted it wrong. Was that the wrong choice? I know she doesn’t see me as weak yet, because I’m typically put together and mature. But I worry that she’s going to start feeling as if I’m not stable. My last intention is to scare her off. Any advice or help is appreciated, thanks for reading my long comment.
Shawn says
Great advice I’m actually gonna try this I’ve been dating my current girlfriend for two months now we met in January and use to see each other every now and then until we made it official then it became an everyday thing she always wants to come over but we would get bored like you mentioned on our phone,watching tv nothing exciting I want that excitement back I wana be happy when we are about to meet up and hang out I’m also about to join a gym and keep her missing me that’s what this relationship needs I love her to death but it’s for the best of us every relationship needs this also to see if it’s ment to be if you don’t miss each other then obviously you don’t need to be together
Alexander Writer says
Hi Shawn,
You’re right on track. Best of luck to you and your situation.
Max says
Hey Alex,
Thanks for your advise it’s really great if i think about it, i will try it from next week on.
My situation: i am dating my gf for about a year and the problem is we live like 45 min apart from each other, she works everyday and i go to university. We see each other every weekend from friday-sunday evening and 1-2 times a week. Today she told me that she doesnt meet any of her friends anymore and i think it is bad, she told me she would like to see them more often. My cocern is that she saw her ex boyfriend everyday because they were living 5 minutes from each other. I think that if she cant see me often she will notice that i am not available when she needs me, some issue that she didnt have with her ex. So do you think i should use your tactic? I want to start to work out next week again maybe i should reduce our dates for only one day in the week and dont see her on friday? Next week i will mix the days up a little bit, and maybe see her only at the weekend. Would you recommend to use your tactic in my case?
Best wishes
Christian says
Awesome! I’m a bit familiar with the pick up techniques, but recently decided to have a more stable and long-lasting relationship so at some point I wondered how often I should meet my gf. Your post just solved the problem and I’m going to apply it from now. Thanks! Great value here!
Alexander Writer says
Hi Christian,
I’m glad to hear that! Best of luck to you, my friend.
Dan says
Interesting article but I would could never be happy in an unpredictable relationship. I need structure and I need routine.
Alexander Writer says
Hi Dan,
Structure is fine, but routine can get boring after a while. Might want to make some changes here and there to that routine just to be safe.
Philip Braselmann says
Well, bookmarked in case I am looking for a girflriend 😛
Nick says
I read your article and for a moment I thought somebody had been watching me for a long time hahaha! Pretty much you described my case. We have been together for a little more than a year and a half and we go to the same uni. Thing is, because of work we used to see each other every weekend but in the spring we decided that it was rather beneficial for us to study together and it was rather effective for both of us… Right up until we had a talk last night where she said that we should tone it down a little bit and like you said she expressed her need for a little mystery again in our relationship. I agreed to a compromise and we’ll just have to see then… My concern is, if our relationship has crossed the point of no return… We love each other a lot and we rarely had any fights (more like an intense argument at worst) and we are really compatible. It’s just that she is the reason why I managed to get through a really depressive phase in my life and to a certain extent she is my strength to keep going on everyday. I never was though a clingy boyfriend and she admitted it. Our talk was more like a warning to not become one….
toto says
and what if you live together with your gf? how about ‘space’ in this case?
Alexander Writer says
Hi Toto,
Easy. Go to the gym, go bike riding with friends, go to the mall, go fishing, etc. There are countless things you can do without your girlfriend. You don’t have to spend the whole day apart, but you should at least spend a couple of hours apart…especially if you live together.
Eddie says
Hi Alex
I went through your article and i was intrigued by what you were saying.
Me and my girlfriend are dating now for 8 months, awesome 8 months but there became a habit of it…during those 8 months i had turned into a compulsive gambler.
Everytime we went out we would go to a gambling place and i only realised it was too much when she wanted to call it quits.
I was blinded because i never came after how she felt towards the whole situation.
We then decided to not give up but yet work on it , on our situation that we have now. I have been seeing her everyday now but for a brief while at night before we both head off to bed. I have found hobbies to do to substitute for that compulsive gambling issue and most of my hobbies include her!
But now she is giving me-time for me and by that meaning when we not by each other we don’t communicate over the phone for that brief moment so that we can focus on our me-time?
If the relationship is already like what it is and what it went through how do i handle it, what do i need to do to make amends to the wrongs that i have done! Becuase honestly i can’t see myself with another girl in my life
Besides the one i have now!
I truly do love her with all i have and want to be with her till death do us part. What can i do?
Adams Smith Akule says
I have been in a relationship for close to 3 years now.in the second year of the relationship,we agreed to marry each other,all effort to meet with the young woman’s parents proved abortive.Within me,I felt my girl wasn’t telling me the truth as she told me,her father is not in support cos we are not the same tribe,i started withdrawing from that point,at a point,she too started withdrawing.We were apart for 3 months and decided to reconcile our feelings. Now I love her more than before but she insisted we start all over again,dropping the marriage idea.I accepted her idea.we see each other twice in a month.I need your advice cos,she is the girl I wish to settle down with.
Wamukoko wycliff says
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Wisdom says
Alex
Pls Av been in a relationship for 2years nw , ova DAT 2yr we ac been seeing each other day by day , an also calling her every hours of d day, but d problem is DAT she as knw respect to Mi she can talk to Mi as she want, but wen ever I told her DAT am breaking out she start crying an beging Mi , she use to call Mi on a phone Mi 2 or 3times everyday wot should I do am comfus
Wisdom says
Alex I Av problem in my relationship ova 2years nw but I use to c her every day I cum bk from work bcoz we live near, but nw d way d girl talk to Mi any how she want, Av decided not to call her on phone or c her again but every day she call Mi 2or 3times daily I dnt knw wot to do
Caroline says
What if you live with your significant other? Any suggestions?
Neal says
i know .im 9 and yup i have a gf. she seems to be cheating on me and she seems to like my best friend. she started flirting with him and by the time i noticed it was too late. so during quarantine i saw my friend and he said something in the comments of my gf .he said”oooooooooooooooooooooohhh”( in capital) and i saw one person inside that said “dont talk like that to your gf. ” i was mad . i didnt know what to do. so few months later they broke apart .she still talks to him but not like last time. now ive noticed that she has to many boy friends . now im thinkin that she might do it all over again.what should i do ?
Allen says
Hey Alex, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for 7 months now, and everything seemed fine and everything. We spend every day together and I’ve been staying at her place almost every day even though I have my own place because I thought that’s what she wanted since she was calling the place my home as well and we’d always get grocerys for her place and we talked about moving in together and she started redecorating her place to meet my needs as well. until she messaged me out of nowhere saying we’re moving too fast. We had a heart to heart conversation and it seemed like our relationship was over but we decided to take it a step back and slow things down and give it a try. I asked her if she wanted me staying at her place still and she said yes. I’m worried it’s becoming a clingy thing and I don’t want to ruin this relationship and we made plans for the weekend but I don’t know how to say to her that I’ll stay at my place just to give her some space without causing more of a strain in our relationship.