Are there really plenty of fishes in the sea?
Plenty of fishes.
Notice I used the word “fishes” instead of “fish” in the title.
The correct way to say it is “plenty of fish”.
However, after doing some research, I found that fish means one species and fishes means many.
So I decided to use fishes to make the following point.
Psychologically speaking, there are many species of people.
They all have different personalities.
Some enjoy talking a lot while others barely say a word.
Some are honest and others lie.
You’ll often hear how there are plenty of fish in the sea.
But is it true?
This common phrase is used when someone goes through a break-up or faces some sort of rejection with the opposite sex.
“Don’t worry, there’s plenty of fish in the sea.”
The reality is that, yes, there are plenty of fishes. (Or fish. In case grammar is vital to you Ha-ha).
However, in order to find them, you need to know EXACTLY where to look.
I wrote an article called fish where the fish are.
I explain how in order to get results, you need to search for answers where you’ll find them.
Let’s go over where your plenty of fishes can be found.
Where are the plenty of fishes located
The first thing you need to do is ask yourself what’s the type of person (species) you like.
Without being specific, it’ll be tough to find what you’re looking for.
Going to bars to meet people is the famous go-to move.
But is it really the best place?
At least not in my opinion.
It’s much better to position yourself in a place where there are things you enjoy.
This is where people who share your same interest will be found.
It’s much easier to strike up a conversation and build rapport with someone who likes the same things you do.
For example, I’ve recently developed an interest in bike riding.
Instead of riding around my neighborhood, I can start going to parks with trails where other people ride.
If I cross paths with a woman who’s also bike riding, there will be plenty to talk about.
“How long have you been riding bike?”
“How often do you ride?”
“Is this the best park you’ve been to?”
You follow me?
But if I go to a bar, I have to ask boring questions like:
“So what do you do?”
“What made you come out tonight?”
“How’s your drink?”
Even if you have great conversation skills, it’s a much better idea to meet people at places you enjoy being at.
If you absolutely enjoy being at a bar, fine.
But if you have other hobbies, that’s where you need to spend most of your time instead.
Not only will there be conversation built right in, but the chances of you having chemistry with the person will be higher.
Don’t make dating a chore.
You shouldn’t feel obligated to meet new people.
It should be fun and natural.
How to start catching plenty of fishes
Go and hang out at places you enjoy.
Focus on constant self-improvement.
Work on things that are in your control.
If you’re short, that’s not in your control.
However, if you’re overweight, that’s in your control.
Anyone who makes the best of things in their control will increase there chances of success.
Combine that with a good personality and you’ll be far more successful with dating than most people.
Do you like music?
Find places in your area where live bands play.
Do you like cooking?
Take a culinary class.
How about dancing?
Join a dance class.
It’s that easy.
In order to take advantage of the plenty of fishes available, you MUST go where they are!
If you’re not having success, then you’re fishing in the wrong place.
End of story.
If you hear someone say “I have bad luck meeting the type of people I’d like to date”, refer them to this article.
They’ll thank you.