10 Reasons Why She Wants To Take a Break From Your Relationship

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So she told you she wants to take a break from your relationship, huh?

Right now, you don’t know what to do.

You’re scared, mad, and anxious all at the same time.

You need answers so you decided to search in Google for advice and found this article.

Well don’t worry, my friend, I’ll provide you the answers you’re seeking.

By the end of this article, you’ll understand exactly why she wants to take a break.

Here we go!

1. She can’t breathe

Do you try to spend all your free time with her?

Do you get mad or dramatic when she doesn’t include you in things?

If so, guess what?

You’re suffocating her with attention and need to give her space!

Women, ALL WOMEN, need time alone.

You either give it to her or she’ll say things like “We need to take a break”.

Here’s why…

By always wanting to be with her, not only do you “suffocate her”, but you come across as needy and insecure.

As a man, you should have your own life and do things that exclude your girlfriend.

For example, start a hobby with your friends, join a boxing class, go on an intense hike while listening to your favorite music, go to the mall, wash your car, go visit family, etc.

It doesn’t matter what it is as long as it excludes her.

In order for relationships to work, both people must give each other space.

And one more thing…

Don’t text and call her the entire time you’re apart.

Inside my dating book, I show you how and why it’s so important to give a woman the gift of missing you, and why it works like magic!

Your girlfriend WANTS and NEEDS to miss you so that she feels excited when she see’s you.

If she lacks this feeling of excitement, the relationship will take a turn for the worse.

This turn leads you down a road that ends on this article.

Are you following me?

Remember this…

Nothing is more attractive to a woman than a man who is confident and shows no signs of insecurity or neediness when she’s not around.

It says a lot of good things about you.

Trust me.

2. No more surprises

Has everything become routine?

Do the two of you always eat the same things from the same places?

Do you do the same things day after day, month after month?

Guess what?

She’s BORED!

You need to shake things up a little every so often.

You see, one of the reasons why the beginning of relationships are referred to as “the honeymoon stage” is because everything is a new.

You go places you’ve never been to together, so each date is a new experience.

Everything feels fun and new.

The problems begin after you’ve been together for a while and there are no more surprises.

Another important thing I share inside my book is the fact that predictability and boredom kill relationships FAST!

It doesn’t take a lot of effort to find a new place in town to eat or something new to do together.

For example, I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 years.

Just the other day I realized we’d never gone bowling together.

I took her to local spot called Splitsville here in Miami and had a great time.

I whooped her butt at bowling, but that’s besides the point.

If you make effort, you’ll find that there are countless new things the two of you can do together.

But, if you’re not willing to make the effort, then you’re simply not serious about making your relationship work.

Change things up a little to keep her guessing and excited about your relationship.

For example, you might decide to randomly go eat somewhere new in the middle of the week, go play miniature golf, or go watch a movie.

When everything is routine, you begin to live like robots who lack passion and excitement.

The first sign that you’re relationship is lacking passion and excitement are the words “we need to take a break”.

3. You complain

If there’s one thing that turns a woman off it’s men who complain.

Men who complain are perceived as little boys who don’t take action to fix their problems.

Instead of taking care of business, they bitch and moan for attention and comfort.

Does that sound like behavior that’s attractive to women?

Of course not.

Real men accept their situation and do whatever necessary to change it.

It’s fine admitting to your girlfriend that you’re unhappy with your current situation.

She wants you to be honest and to communicate with her.

However there’s a BIG difference between complaining and communicating.

Women want a man who communicates, but who also takes action to get what he wants and deserves.

Make sense?

4. You question her every move

“Where are you going?”

“Why?”

“What time will you be back?”

“Can I go?”

“Can you call or text me when you get there?”

“You don’t want to do this instead?”

Stop it!

Are you her father?

No, right?

…Then stop acting like it!

Don’t question her every time she’s going to do something without you.

Not only does it annoy her, but it makes you appear extremely insecure.

5. You’re indecisive 

Her: “What do you want to eat?”

You: “I don’t know. What do you want?”

What you should respond: “I can go for that beef and broccoli that you make. Let’s have that.”

See the difference?

Her: “What do you want to do this weekend?”

You respond: “Umm what do you feel like doing?”

What you should respond: “I’m going to take you to this fun place I heard about. You’re going to love it.”

See the difference?

Women want a decisive man who takes the lead.

The reason she asks you what YOU want is because she’s giving you your place as a man.

Own your place, my friend.

She’ll thank you.

Trust me.

6. You’re complacent

Remember what I mentioned in #2?

Women fear the thought of no more surprises.

Complacent people have nothing to look forward to.

They lack the fire and motivation that comes from achieving something great.

You should ALWAYS have a goal you’re working towards that will improve your life physically, mentally or financially.

You don’t have to be the world’s strongest, richest or smartest man, but always aim to improve yourself.

The goal is to never be in the same place you were a year ago. 

You should always have more physical strength, money and knowledge with each passing year.

Never fantasize about reaching a point in life where you’re “done”.

That isn’t happiness, it’s a recipe for boredom and depression.

Ever wonder why there are men who are filthy rich and still work?

It’s because the thrill and fun of being rich is in “the getting”.

In other words, money brings joy, comfort and power – but the real thrill comes from chasing a goal you’ve yet to achieve.

In 2017, I made thousands of dollars with this blog selling my eBooks.

The money was FANTASTIC, and brought me a ton of comfort, fun and happiness.

But, looking back on it now, the real enjoyment came from not knowing whether I really could ever make that kind of money.

I remember thinking “Wow, I think it’s about to happen”, and then it actually happened.

What a rush that was!

Achieving a goal you didn’t think was possible gives you an indescribable high.

Guess what?

That’s the high your woman wants to be a part of.

The best advice I can give you is to set goals and make a commitment to never quit until you achieve them.

7. You’re intimidated by other men

You should never worry about or envy what other men have.

Doing so makes you appear insecure, jealous, weak and helpless.

If a man has something you want, use it as motivation to go get it yourself.

Never judge or criticize another man, especially in front of your girlfriend.

By doing so, you’re communicating how much you fear that she’ll prefer him over you.

You might think that judging or criticizing him will convince her to perceive him the same way.

The reality?

Your girlfriend knows that the only reason you’re judging or criticizing him is because you see him as a threat.

She also knows that this is the only way for you to feel better about yourself.

Women are great at analyzing behavior, my friend.

If you’re constantly envying other men, STOP IT!

Remember that the more you envy and criticize him, the more powerful and attractive he becomes to your girlfriend.

What do I do when I see a man who has something I want?

I tell myself: “That’s awesome that he has that. Now it’s my turn to get it.”

End of story.

8. You don’t get out of your comfort zone

It’s impossible to change or improve yourself without getting out of your comfort zone.

I could be relaxing at the beach right now, but am making the effort to write this article to help YOU instead.

By getting out of my comfort zone, I’m able to help you, which ultimately provides a greater reward than sitting on the beach.

When men email me explaining how much one of my articles helped them, it’s a priceless feeling that no beach in the world can provide.

In order to experience this feeling, I need to get out of my comfort zone and spend MANY hours writing and editing my articles.

Is it worth it?

Don’t make me laugh, I wouldn’t trade it for anything in the world.

You should always make time to relax and have fun in life.

But, if you’re not regularly getting out of your comfort zone to learn, grow and achieve new things, you’re limiting your potential.

And guess what?

Women aren’t attracted to men who limit themselves.

Yes, getting out of your comfort zone isn’t always fun.

But you know what?

The rewards are 100% worth it.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.” – Muhammad Ali

9. You’ve let yourself go

Relationships can make you comfortable.

With comfort comes a price.

If you let yourself go by putting on weight and/or not keeping up with your grooming, you’ll leave her no choice but to begin losing attraction for you.

Just because you’re already in a relationship with her doesn’t mean you should slack off on your appearance.

In fact, the more you like her, the harder you should work to maintain yourself.

At minimum, you should look as good or better than when she first met you.

Letting yourself go gives you a first class ticket to “we need to take a break” city.

10. You didn’t ask for a break first

I saved the best for last.

This will come as a shocker to you, but trust me that I know what I’m talking about.

If things were going bad in your relationship, the reason your girlfriend asked you to take a break is because you didn’t ask her first.

Let me explain.

Nothing makes a man appear more helpless, weak and needy than staying in a relationship that’s taken a turn for the worse.

A real man walks away from a bad situation that isn’t providing him fun, happiness and personal growth.

Of course, you should always try to work things out with her, but if things don’t get better, you must be man enough to walk away.

By doing so, you maintain her respect for you as a man.

Women are attracted to men who want them, but don’t need them.

There’s a big difference between wanting and needing a woman.

Read that sentence again.

You should always make her feel sexy and wanted, but she should never feel like your life will fall apart if she were to leave you.

You might think that by staying with her when things have taken a turn for the worse will show that you care.

Wrong.

Be a man and walk away.

She’ll respect you for it and come running back to make things work.

You’ll see. 😉

Talk soon,

-Alexander Writer

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