There’s nothing wrong with being social.
Actually, it’s bad if you’re not.
You should be able to have a conversation with anyone about anything.
Well, almost anything.
There’s certain things a man should never discuss.
Things that are meant to be personal.
Things no one needs to hear.
Things people can tell just by looking at you.
In other words, you say more by saying less.
So never talk about the 5 things I’m about to share with you.
Let’s begin.
1) How much money you make
You make $1,000 per month?
That’s your business.
You make $3,000 per month?
That’s you business.
You make $10,000 per month?
Trust me when I say you better keep it your business.
…Or else “friends” you never knew you had will begin to appear.
Talking or bragging about how much money he makes is the last thing a man should do.
Whether it’s a little or a lot, no one needs to know.
NO ONE!
You should be the only one focused and concerned about your finances.
The more you make, the bigger of a mistake it is to talk about it.
I’m not telling you to turn money into a taboo.
It’s fine to talk about ways to make more money.
But steer away from discussing the number in your bank account.
Your finances are your personal business.
There isn’t one person that knows how much money this blog makes.
And no one will ever know.
Just me.
I’ll show proof of my sales for credibility, but never my profits.
Telling other’s you’re rich is not a manly trait.
Telling other’s you’re broke is not a manly trait.
Keeping quiet about your money and constantly improving it, no matter how much or how little you have, is a manly trait.
Period.
2) Sex life
Your sex life is your business.
Not your friends, co-workers, or strangers on the street.
Unless it’s getting “serious”, no one needs to know about the woman you’re sleeping with.
If things don’t go anywhere passed the bedroom, no one needs to know about it.
It stays between you and her.
She deserves her respect and privacy and so do you.
End of story.
Any guy you see bragging about some girl he had sex with isn’t a real man.
Don’t be that guy.
3) Your next move
Just like your dating life, your next move is YOUR next move.
No one else’s.
A man should make a plan and do what’s necessary to follow through with it.
And unless someone is helping you, they have no business knowing about it.
You should only talk about your next move once it’s accomplished.
In other words, you should never say “I’m currently working on this”.
What you should say is “Look at what I accomplished”.
It’s much more interesting to hear about a plan and how you accomplished it opposed to just hearing about the plan itself.
Do you think anyone cared when I was trying to figure out how to earn $100 per day online?
NO.
All they cared about was the finished product that would bring them results.
You follow me?
“Hey, Alexander, what are you up these days?”
Working like crazy.
End of story.
4) Secrets
If someone tells you a secret, you keep it a secret!
No matter how great of a conversation topic it would make.
Keep it 100% private!
If you tell me a secret, you can feel safe that it won’t be repeated.
People email me secrets all the time.
They tell me about their relationship issues, money problems, and all other sorts of things.
I also have friends who’ve told me secrets.
All secrets stay between us.
The fact that I can keep a secret is the reason people share them.
Trust is something money cannot buy.
If I send you $100 right now through PayPal, you’ll probably like me and be thankful.
But will you trust me with your deepest secrets?
Once I have someone’s trust, whether it’s a personal or business relationship, I guard it like gold.
Credibility is something that can get you far in life.
Always remember that.
I can’t begin to explain how much it bothers me when a “man” says:
“I must tell you a secret that so and so told me. But don’t tell anyone!”
If you can’t keep a secret, you’re not trustworthy.
If you’re not trustworthy, you’re not a real man.
Period.
5) Mistakes
Unless it’s to share wisdom or prevent someone pain, mistakes shouldn’t be discussed.
A mistake is a lesson learned that belongs in the past.
It’s not who you are.
It’s something you had to experience in order to grow as a person.
Whether you lost $1000 over the weekend or ruined your diet by eating a whole box of pizza…
Keep it to yourself.
Talking about your mistakes is a way to get sympathy and attention from others.
Real men don’t require any of the two.
They make a mistake, learn from it, and move forward.
You’ve made mistakes.
I’ve made mistakes.
Everyone we know and will ever meet has made mistakes.
It’s part of life.
But it isn’t meant to be part of your daily conversations.
Conclusion
So there you have it.
The 5 things you should always keep private.
I highly advise you follow the advice in this article.
It’ll do great things for your character and how people perceive you.
Talk soon,
-Alexander
Miracle bitrus says
Indeed it’s true
Alexander Writer says
Glad you agree and enjoyed the article!