I Miss My Ex

Break-ups, for the most part, never occur for a “good” reason.

Something went wrong.

Either someone wasn’t honest, cheated, or stopped being who they use to be.

However, even though a break-up occurred, it doesn’t mean there weren’t any “good times”.

And it’s for this very reason you’re telling yourself and other people “I miss my ex“.

So what do you do?

How do you stop missing them?

Well, it all depends on the situation.

Things like how long you were together, why the break-up occurred, and so on.

These things determine the length of time it’ll take to “move on”.

Worrying how long it’ll take to stop missing your ex isn’t necessary.

There is no specific time.

But…

There are things you should begin doing the very same day of the break-up.

They’ll expedite the time it takes for you to stop missing your ex.

First of all, you probably feel lonely more than actually “missing” your ex.

A relationship is nice because you have company, among other things.

If you’re spending the weekend alone at home when just a week ago you were out with your ex; you can’t expect to feel great.

What’s the solution?

GET OUT THE HOUSE!

Most of the time, people stay home after a break-up and dwell on their past relationship.

What does this do?

Nothing good, but it sure does a whole lot of BAD.

Your ex no longer becomes your ex, she become your obsession.

And that’s not going to lead anywhere good, my friend.

You fantasize about the times you spent together.

The funny inside jokes you shared.

All the great places you went together.

Even the staying at home all weekend being lazy and watching movies.

This has to stop right now.

You need to get out with friends/family and interact with other people.

You don’t need to start dating immediately, although there’s been studies proving it helps.

Personally, I don’t recommend it.

I believe you should spend some time alone and focus on yourself.

Next, work on your health.

Get a little stronger and a little slimmer.

Working out will help release endorphin’s in the brain.

This will help you stop thinking and missing your ex as often.

If I miss my ex, the last thing I do is stay home eating and watching TV.

Why?

Because all I’m going to do is think about her and obviously gain weight.

Where am I going to be a month from now if this happens?

My guess is: Not a very good place

Overweight, obsessed thinking about her, and lonely.

Don’t do it to yourself.

It’s normal and natural to miss your ex.

It’s going to happen, especially if you had plenty of good times and memories together.

Good times and memories are addicting and you want more of them.

You will have more of them!

As soon as you begin doing the right things to stop missing your ex and allow yourself to move on, you’ll meet someone.

Right now, it doesn’t feel like you’ll ever get over her.

“I miss my ex” is the only thing you believe right now.

However, just know that YOU WILL GET OVER HER.

The amount of time it takes is up to you and your actions.

If you miss her, your confidence is probably low.

You lack self-esteem because your relationship went bad.

Again, all normal.

Its part of life, my friend.

Get out the house, take care of yourself, have fun, and accept the process of getting over her.

All it’s going to do is make you a stronger and better person.

But start now, because you’re next relationship will be here before you know it.

And she will be prettier, funnier, smarter, and more supporting than your ex.

You’ll wonder why you even spent time thinking about your ex when you meet your new girlfriend.

“OK Alex, I understand this, but I miss my ex and can’t stop thinking about her“.

Good.

Congratulations, you’re a human with feelings and emotions.

Now go and share those feelings with the relationship that’s meant for you.

…not the one that didn’t work out.

It might seem like she was the one, but “the one” would still be here physically, not mentally.

-Alex

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