When Do I Call Her?

It’s funny to me how guys can sometimes worry about the smallest things.

They think that there’s a perfect way to do things when it comes to woman and dating.

They feel they have to put in massive amounts of thought into every single step or action they take after meeting a woman.

Instead of letting things just flow naturally, they put pressure on the situation and stress themselves out.

So here’s the situation…

You met a pretty girl and think she’s great in every way possible.

She’s sweet, has a great smile, and great conversation.

You got number, you’re excited, and can’t wait to see her again.

More importantly, you worry because you don’t want to mess it up with her.

You don’t want to ruin your chances of getting a first date.

You want to “play it cool” and not come across as desperate or weird.

So now you place all this importance on the smallest thing possible…

When you will call her.

Here’s my answer: It doesn’t matter.

When you call her is not important, its how you act when you call her.

Of course, you don’t want to call her within an hour of meeting her, that’s just a little weird.

You want the memory of you to develop in her mind by letting her think about you a little.

Give it at least a day.

I usually call the next day and set up a date for a couple of days later.

I keep the phone call short and to the point.

Not because I am trying to act important or “play hard to get”…

….but because I want there to be plenty of conversation during our first date.

When I call, it will go something like this:

 “Hey, I wanted to give you a quick call and invite you to meet me at this great place that I’ve been wanting to go to. Can you make it Thursday at 7:30?”

That’s it.

If she can’t make it, then plan for another day.

If she agrees to the date, then you respond with:

“Great, I’ll see you there Thursday. Don’t miss me too much from here till then”.

A little teasing will make her laugh and think about you until Thursday.

So far, her memory of you will be great.

You were interesting when you met, you called her and set up the date like a man, and you were even a little fun by teasing her.

Most importantly, you weren’t clingy.

You gave her a quick call and let her get back to whatever she was doing.

Do you understand what’s going on here?

So far, she likes everything about you and is looking forward to seeing you again.

You’re first date should be fun and you should go somewhere that you can actually talk.

This is your chance to decide if she’s someone you’d even consider dating.

Ask her questions about what her favorite things to do are, where’s one place she’s always wanted to go, and what’s her happiest memory.

Keep the conversation fun and positive.

Give her one great comment about how the color of her outfit compliments her skin or how the length of her hair goes great with her face structure.

Be unique.

Don’t say things like, “You look so pretty tonight”  

She probably hears this everyday.

Don’t ask questions about her job, family, or past relationships.

All these questions should be discussed LATER when you’re actually together as a couple, not during the first couple of dates.

Back to the topic of when to call her…

Don’t ever do the whole waiting two or three days thing to call her.

Guys who do this are perceived as immature and childish.

They do this because they feel that it will make them appear important, not clingy, and more attractive.

This just makes the woman think of you as every other guy she’s met.

Do you want to stand out or be like every other guy?

Women know that you are thinking about them and that you have two to three minutes to call her and set up a date.

There is nothing wrong with calling the next day.

It’s not when you call that determines if she thinks of you as a desperate or clingy guy…

It’s how often you call.

By the way, make sure you actually CALL her when setting up the date.

Don’t text her like a scared little boy, pick up the phone and call her!

She’ll like and appreciate this.

Keep a calm, cool, and relaxed tone of voice and simply ask her to join you on a date.

Don’t over complicate things.

Stop asking yourself, “When do I call her?”

The important thing is to act like a man and not play mind games.

Good luck!

Your friend,

Alex

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