I remember reading Mel Robbins book, Stop Saying You’re Fine.
In it, she shared a conversation she had with her father.
She explained how they were speaking on the subject of taking risks and how it can be scary.
She told her father how there’s always the possibility of something bad happening.
Her father replied: “Mel, sure, anything bad can always happen, but it usually doesn’t.”
…And I felt that was a simple but very POWERFUL response.
Fear is what paralyzes people from taking action.
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Fear of failure.
Fear of success.
Fear of criticism.
The list is endless….
Most people can achieve anything they want…If they went after it.
I’m now 100% convinced that if you can read this article, you can achieve everything I have and MORE!
But when it comes down to taking a risk, people talk themselves out of it.
And unfortunately, they live their whole lives like this, never amounting to what they could’ve.
Let me share a personal story with you…
When I was a kid (age 10 or 11), I had a fear of fighting.
I tried to avoid confrontation because of it.
I don’t know if it was that I was scared of getting hit or something else, but what I did know was that the fear was there.
…And it wasn’t going anywhere.
I begged my mom to put me in karate.
She did.
And let me tell that I was scared for my life when I walked into my first class and saw all the kids punching, kicking, and fighting with each other.
…But something inside me didn’t let me run.
I knew I had to do this.
So I pushed through and stayed in the class.
And slowly but surely, my fear of fighting diminished a little more after each class.
However, my mom had to take me out of karate.
Why?
Because I went from a kid who was scared of fighting to a kid who looked for fights.
It was beginning to get bad.
One day, she took me to a birthday party for her boss’s son.
That’s right, her boss!
Can you believe that I beat up the birthday boy?
Sure, we were just kids playing around and got into a fight like boys our age do.
As the saying goes, “Boys will be boys”.
However, I sure picked the wrong kid to behave like “boys” with that day.
I remember sitting in the car with my mom as she decided that it was best to leave the party.
Her boss and his wife came up to our car and told her not to worry and stay.
She was so embarrassed and angry with me that we left anyways.
You can probably predict what my punishment was…
If you guessed that she took me out of karate, you guessed right.
Come to think of it, it was probably a smart move because who knows what other kind of trouble I would’ve gotten myself into.
The moral of the story is that ANY fear you have can be conquered.
You’ll always be scared of something, but if you just PUSH through, the rewards will come.
Again, I went from a kid who was scared of fighting to a kid who looked for fights.
I experienced a complete shift in mindset.
When I started this blog, I also had fear.
Fear that no one would care what I had to say.
Fear that I would waste my time spending many hours working hard and not have anything to show for it.
Fear of failing.
…But I pushed through.
I really wanted to grow this blog and make it successful.
And look at me now, close to 190 articles published, and my second eBook on the way.
I went from having fear of blogging to a man whose fingers itch at night wanting to type his next article instead of going to sleep.
You want something?
Take the risk.
With no risk comes no reward.
No reward without risk.
However you want to put it is irrelevant.
Just know that without pushing through fear, you won’t get what you really want out of life.
Even winning the lottery requires you to take a risk with your money.
What if you use my karate story every time you encounter a fear?
What if you have the fear of starting your own website and conquer that fear by becoming someone who has multiple websites?
What if you have a fear of talking to women and conquer that fear by becoming a man who talks to ANY women in any situation?
How much more powerful can you become as a person if you aim to conquer any fear you may have?
I’ll tell you how powerful…You’ll literally become UNSTOPPABLE.
Successful people have the ability to get whatever they want because they go after it and don’t stop, regardless of any fear that might pop up in their head.
Just do what you need to do to get what you need to get.
Oh, you’re scared for some reason?
…Guess what?
So is everyone else who needs to take a risk.
Just ask yourself, “Is what I want worth the risk?”
“How different will my life be if I accomplish it?”
More importantly, “How much will I regret not taking a risk knowing what I wanted was there for the taking, but the little voice inside my head stopped me?”
You take risks every single day and don’t realize it.
When you eat, when you step outside your home, when you go anywhere and do anything.
Why not take a risk for something you really want?
No matter who you are, where you live, what you believe in, or what you want out of life…
There’s always the possibility of something bad happening.
…But it usually doesn’t.
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Be brave.
Be honorable.
Take a risk.
It’s there, waiting for you to conquer it.
“Don’t live the same year 75 times and call it life.”
– Robin S. Sharma
And always remember…
No Risk, No Reward.
We’ll talk again soon,
-Alex
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Alex (Administrator) says
Phenomenal comment, Tara. Thanks for sharing.
The Rational Rebel says
This one joins my list of favourite articles. I love every bit of it, Alex.
While reading about Mel Robbins’ conversation with her dad, I remembered a few similar conversations with my dad. Except that in my case the roles were always reversed. I always wanted to take risks and my dad always tried to talk me out of it. But life experience shows that the old saying “better safe than sorry” is actually something like “safe is sorry.”
If it’s a big risk, I think you’ll still be bit afraid while taking it. And in this sense fear is not bad. It keeps you alert. Paralyzing fear is the one you want to avoid.
Great write up, my friend.
-Tara